My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Ohio
Don't get wrapped up in my wording ("my" days...) it's the only way I can describe it.
Anyway, I am a few weeks away from a court hearing with a 99% chance outcome of me being given full custody because of some pretty serious issues/abuse on her side. Right now we have 50/50 shared parenting. Weekdays, I have them wed-fri. Both children have nutritional issues and are literally only (not exaggerating) fed "chicken nuggets" while under her care because they are quick and easy to make for the kids. I have them on a special diet of healthy food for all meals, including the lunch I pack for them. While the school lunches may be sufficient, their doctor recommended I pack them a healthier lunch. I also understand that when they are not in my care, I don't have much say in what goes on good or bad so I do my best to keep them healthy when I do have a say of what goes on.
My problem/question is that she is now frequently coming up to see them at lunch at school on days that I am supposed have them and I feel that it is STRONGLY taking away from my parenting time. Yes, I realize that they are at school, and at face value, it doesn't look like it would do any harm. She either buys them junk food (today it was mcdonalds) or buys them a school lunch and throws the ones I made in the gabage. My decree does not specifically talk about school lunches, but is it completely off the wall to believe that when I am awarded certain days that I should receive uninterrupted parenting time? They are always free to call her. They were upset today because they thought I would be mad at them because "mom made us throw out our lunches and eat mcdonalds". I do not go to lunch or even see them at any point on days where she is supposed to have parenting time.
Do I have a leg to stand on here? I was going to start with writing her a letter asking (nicely) that she not visit them on days that are designated as mine. I guarantee she won't abide by it. This is kind of a new problem and I'd appreciate any tips or thoughts you guys might have. I kind of relate it to... lets say she leaves them with her parents if she has something else to do. If she can hang out with them during school, I should be able to go hang out with her at her parents, right? I mean I would never do that, but I'm suppose to have a certain amount of time to try to positively influence and "parent" them. Just because I am at work while they are at school doesn't mean she can jump in, right? (decree, again, doesn't address this)

