I could go on and on about the situation - and I actually I did...before the spell checker threw me off this page and dropped everything I already typed.
She hates being around him and his temper - so she never wants to go to his house. I've filed a placement request just this week with the court - but in the meantime, tonight for example, he is saying if I were any kind of decent parent I would force her to go over to his house - just like I force her to go to school. The bottom line question is - is he right? Should I force her based on legalities (I sure won't force her because he wants it that way...)?
Just so you know - I did suggest to her that she and he go to mediation first - but she is horrified at the thought. And I'm not denying him his rights - I understand how she feels - it's exhausting being around someone who flys off the handle all the time.
Oh, er, we currently have shared custody and shared placement (since she was about 4 years old). She has gone to his house for 9 years fairly faithfully.

