This is not a DIY project.

You need an attorney immediately.

Stop, right now, working the "grapevine". if you have ANY contact whatsoever, the judge will come down on you like the wrath of God.

Yes, that means texts, carrier pigeons, friends of friends, smoke signals... ANYTHING.

Now, since 75% of DV victims recant their testimony, realize that the DA will not necessarily look to the victim to make the case but, instead, the testimony of the police on the scene and the reports and pictures they took at that time.