Most of the problem is that I don't believe it's HIM that wants this extra time. What do I do when he has two weeks and they spend that entire time with his mother? They have NO relationship with her, her household isn't optimal for the kids to spend an extended period of time in (four adults, two young children with a newborn due soon, three bedrooms for all of them and there's CONSTANT bickering and noise). Our older son has medically diagnosed pervasive Asperger's. I can't imagine what our son would go through being in a virtual stranger's house for a week with constant chaos, no schedule, no routine and nothing familiar.

Yes, it's great that he wants more time with the kids and if they're trying to build the kids' relationship with her by having them spend his weekends with her then more power to them, I guess. It just doesn't sit well with me that a man who claims to want more time with his kids doesn't use (and has never regularly used) the time he all ready has. Knowing he is barred from leaving the kids with anyone else overnight during that time would make me feel a WHOLE lot better but I don't believe that's even in the realm of possibility.

My problem overall isn't the weekdays. He could honestly have 9 out of 11 weeks' worth of weekdays if he wanted them. BUT. I offered this man a solid week with the children this summer when he said he had vacation and wanted the kids some extra time. He told me he had other plans, that he only wanted them for one or maybe two days, and then they spent those two days with his mother. I offered him more time later in the summer and he declined completely. Now he takes me to court saying I never give him any extra time (he's only EVER asked once and he got it) and he wants two whole weeks? This is also the man who asked for full custody and then turned the kids back over after 5 weeks, turned down joint custody numerous times, and gave up ROFR (then moved out of town and didn't see the kids for three months) after insisting on having it.

And so if what I wrote above isn't acceptable, then tell me what IS acceptable. All things considered, what is the most appropriate answer for me to put into my reply regarding summer visitation? I'm at the point where I'd gladly copy and paste something if it was precise and has the kids' best interests at heart.