From what you've told us, you were not involved in immigration proceedings. We are not in a position to verify that information.

I suggest proceeding based upon the literal language of question 17. As the I-130 form is used for a variety of relationships, not just husband and wife, there's no harm in including the spouse/petitioner's name in answer to question 17 and it could prevent confusion or mistake. More to the point, the form used to add "If your relative is your husband/wife, list only his or her children" - suggesting that the USCIS no longer wants the spouse omitted from that answer.