My Boyfriend Needs to be Emancipated in Oklahoma

[soadfiend07]

I'm 17, he's still 16 (his b-day is in August)..I live 2 hours away so our relationship is long distance...We don't want to sound like spoiled brats, but the situation is a little bit more serious than its gona sound. Here we go.

His mother treats him like he is 2 or three years old. She just wants something to control. For example, its the little things that count, right? But she'd explain to him how to take a shower..like he's new to the world. She would do this every day. She will not allow him to do chores, or think for himself. Until I bar-tied his shoes, she would not let him tye his own shoes. He doesn't know how to do any chores, and it's all because his mother thinks that he wants to stay with her forever, but it's just pushing him away. She acts like she has a lot of mental insecurities.

her morality is completely messed up. He would tell Brock (my boyfriend) infront of a 6 year old girl (his neice), that its okay to have more than one girlfriend, and that its okay to screw around with several people because love doesnt exsist, he should never get married and just live with her forever. She would let him go to a party where there is drugs and alchohol, and let him hang with friends and doesnt even ASK where they are going, ONLY so she wont be alone for very long..and she will not allow him to come visit me, but I can visit him.. In short, he is completely dependant on her. She controls wether he does anything. He is allowed to do anything else, even underage drinking, drugs, anything to keep him home with her.

He's been due for his drivers liscense since last January. But she says that he isnt ready for it yet. But she refuses to take him driving. Keep in mind that she hasn't had a drivers liscense in almost 18 years. So he has to rely on his dad to take him driving. The thing is, he has skin cancer and doesnt want to have to mess with a lot of stuff. So brock is stuck, at home, helpless..He's afraid to run away because he doesnt want anything to happen to himself, and his parents are literally too dumb to understand whenever he tries to talk to them. His mother is in a dellusion that he really is 3 years old, and never listens to what he has to say thinking its meaningless.

All he wants to do is get out of that hellhole and move in with me. His mom has never had a job, so if his dad ever unexpectedly died then they would definatly be out of luck, because she considers state and federal aid 'handouts' ....this includes college scholarships, she thinks that it will make brock stay home forever if he cant go to college either. So he wouldnt have his liscense, or anything and he's fully dependant on them for EVERYTHING. and hes sick of it. He just wants to get emancipated to live with me. We make more money, we could actually provide food for him (because they dont, really..hes underweight according to his height and he has poor nutrition).. and he would have a better life with me. My mom was never one to baby us so we could teach him how to do chores and cook and all of this stuff...he WANTS to do this....

anyway, im sorry if this sounds pointless, we just want advice.

does this case sound like something that could get emancipated, in OK? I know that emancipation is rarely granted, but I just want to know if this kind of life sounds 'normal' for a person. He thinks that somone would just think he's a spoiled brat if he tried to take it to court. but he's not. He shouldnt be treated like this but he doesnt know what to do. We want to get married, but obviously his parents wouldnt sign the papers..although my mom would. We just dont know what to do..because if he ever did try to take it to court, all his parents would have to do is deny everything.

Oh and another thing, they have fraudulent sattilite TV. And have had it for years. I really want to report it, but I'm afraid that nothing would really happen or if something did happen, he'd have to live with his grandparents who are even dumber....or if nothing happened they would blame brock for reporting it and make his life more of a living hell than it already is. I'm wondering if that, since brock is 16, and his parents get in trouble for fraudulend sattilite, if he can possibly get emancipated or will the state take him instead? The thing with going through all of the trouble is that my mom has a record from 7 years ago...and it may be brought up in court if we try to take him instead. Or are they allowed to do that? My mom wants to try and get him emancipated herself, but she's afraid that if she lists herself as his income, they would deny it because of her record..i dunno if that makes any sense. Because if this would work then I'd like to report them for fraudulent sattilite. it sounds like we have no soul but we're desparate here.

even besides emancipation, is there *anything* we can do to get him out of that hellhole? I just dont know much about Oklahoma law and i figured you people could help you seem nice...

thanks

[aaron]

As you appear to already have read, Oklahoma's emancipation statute is a limited law, relating primarily to the minor's right to enter legally binding contracts, not a right to move out of his home against his parents' wishes. Also, to emancipate, a minor must typically demonstrate maturity and the capacity to manage his own affairs - immaturity and dependence would typically undercut an effort to emancipate.

He may wish to discuss his alternatives with a guidance counselor at school.

[soadfiend07]

Thanks. So, if we decide to just wait it out until he graduates, he will be 17 at the time of graduation. Will he be allowed to just move out without the cops doing anything about it? Or will the cops bring him back home if they are called until he turns 18? I read in quite a few places that the kid is pretty much free whenever he graduates or turns 18. We just want to know if his parents can do anything about it if he moves when he graduates? If not, thats what he's gona do.