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  1. #1
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    Default Woman Stalker

    My question involves criminal law for the state of: Virginia

    My exboyfriends wife has been harassing me. Every since she found out details of me and her husbands relationship she has been obsessing over me. And even though our relationship is over she will not let it go and move forward. Me and her husband are still friends and speak on a daily basis because we work together. He tells me all kinds of information shes found on me through online research on public record websites and social networking websites. So I increased the privacy level on my Facebook and Twitter accounts. Yet she still managed to get my information by creating fake pages of people I know. So I went through my page and deleted everyone I was unsure about. She continually sends me text messages of how happy her and her husband is and telling me that I am a whore and threatening to come to my home and cause physical harm to me. She also left me a voicemail from her number which is clearly her voice stating she knows where I live and she is coming to get me. I blocked her number through AT&T which prevents incoming AND outgoing calls and texts from her number. I started to get a lot of blocked calls and I am assuming its her because her husband comes back to me and tells me that she is getting an increased amount of blocked calls and she thinks it me. I am not calling her. Even when she texts me I do not reply. I believe silence speaks volumes and I chose not to add fuel to the fire. I showed him my phone history and my phone bill to prove I am not making such calls. He finally believed me when he got a message from her accusing me of once again calling her from a blocked number but I was right in front of him. She emails me harassing me and threatening me. I blocked her email so it goes directly to my spam and trash folders. She created fake email accounts and attaches private sex videos she stole out of my phone (her husband had my phone and she took it from him) and threatens to leak my video to the public. She came to my home once and was banging the door. Her husband emailed me in advance and told me not to open the door if I didnt want to get shot. I didnt answer and she texted him back that she was only kidding. I called the police and filed an incident report to start a paper trail. Ive left my place of employement where he also works and she will just be sitting in her car even though her husband was already off. So who was she waiting for? Me! She is so obsessed that me and her husband work together and doesnt believe our relationship is over she demands proof from him. She wants him to call me 3-way so she can hear how I respond. She wants him to cuss me out and record it so she hear how I react. I know this because he tells me. Her latest request is she wants him to drive to my house so that I let him in while she hides in the car and then once he is in she wants him to hold me down so she can "beat me down". He told me if this was to ever happen to not open the door. This woman has crossed the point of being crazy. Although me and her husband are friends, we really ended our relationship because he is truly scared for my saftey stating that his wife is really crazy. I asked him to put his foot down and help his wife move forward by telling her to stop obsessing over me. He states that he was guilty for cheating and when he does put his foot down she makes him feel bad and accuses him of protecting me because we are still together. She threatens to leave him, take their four kids, everything they have and so forth. I told him that is there is another incident of her contacting me I will file a restraining order.

    One evening she accused him of being with me which I am not. She tracks his movements via GPS on his phone (sad) and he left work early one day. The next morning at 5am he is banging on my door begging me to open so we can talk. I looked in the car and I saw her movements trying to hide. I looked at him and he was looking at me like please dont open the door. Because he previously warned me I knew what was up. Also he never has to bang on the door because he has a key! So I called the police and filed a second incident report against her. They advised me to file a restraining order because of the evidence I have in my email, voicemail, and text messages of her threatening to cause physical harm to me.

    I went to the Magistrates office who notified me that in the state of Virginia you cannot file restraining orders. You can only file a protective order against a family member or a person in your household. They said I need to file criminal charges against her and once I do it cannot be reversed. I had no problem with that. But when I went to provide my proof of harrasment to the magistrates she said she did not need it. She swore me in and my word was good enough. That brought a red flag up because my concern now is this crazy womans retaliation. How easy is it for her to bring up false charges on me if there is no proof needed? The magsitrate said that a Judge would determing that in court. Im obviously innocent but my issue is she said that I will still have a criminal record showing I was charged with an offense but it was dropped. I am in the process of interviewing for several government GS jobs and I do not want this to be an issue with reactivating my security clearance. The magsitrate said I can have it exponge and take her to civil court if she files false charges but to prove that is hard. Why is it hard is she is sworn in to make a statement and obviously lies?

    My question is if she files false charges on my how can I make sure she doesnt get away with that? And how can I make sure my evidence is god enough to convit her. I do not want to go through all of this just for her slickness to get out of it and flip it on me having to deal with cleaning up her mess. Im starting to think if this is even worth it!!

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    Default Re: Woman Stalker

    Your best way to deal with false charges is to be innocent of them, and to successfully defend yourself against them. We cannot predict the future, and nobody can give you a certain answer about what somebody may or may not do, or the best way to respond to the million+ potential future scenarios that might be involved.

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