Hello, I'm 16 and from San Jose, California.
I've read many threads on Emancipation and different situation on the subject matter, first i was hesitant to post but i really need advise/help contour to my situation.
I'll try and be short and give as much detail as possible.
First and for most, i have a really awful family 'drama' if you will. Ever since i was little my parents constantly fought, both verbal and physical. My mother; I've over heard through out the years is bi-polar, but i have no proof. Just that she gives off signs indicating that she is. She has these really bad 'episodes' i call them. She gets really angry over certain small things. it's not the normal kind of angry like a mother would get angry over her child getting an F, but the kind of angry to be scared of. My father, isn't as bad as my mother...he just gets upsets and cools down, and everything is ok.
So i've been dealing with that growing up, some times it was directed towards me and sometimes not. I remember, growing up CPS would always come to my school and home, because my mother's anger problems were never hidden.
So let me fast forward a little bit to now.
About a year ago, around March i was outed by my brother which made every thing harder for me. My mother and father do not accept that i am a lesbian. Which doesn't bother me as much as i thought it would, and as long as i don't bring it up, everything's fine. My sexuality does play a role in this but not as much as the main issue. As i stated, my mother does have anger issues, and i've read numerous of times about people that are bi-polar and i believe she is based on her behavior. Her anger towards me has accumulated over the past year, and the small things i do she gets that scary angry...that kind of anger you should be scared for you life.
My parents bought a restaurant in 07, right when the Economy had a down fall, so their fighting has been more and more constant and impacts me. Because of the fighting, i cannot count how many times the Police have been to my house. I can't walk by a police officer without them knowing me, just the fighting has gotten that bad. Sometimes during the school year, i would miss so much school because of the fighting...it just gets worse and worse everyday.
When my mother has bad days, she brings up my sexuality, how disgusted she is, how I'm going to hell...everything a lesbian teenager doesn't want to hear. That alone gets so hard. When i first was outed i was dating someone who was going to turn 18, we dated 2-3 months after her 18th birthday. my mother found and threatened her many times to press charges, which i understand she has the right to do that. but she does that now. Occasionally i talk to her as a friend, my mom found out...anything worse possible happened to me. She threatens me, and the girl. we're not dating at all. not to mention I'm not allowed out of the house. The constant verbal abuse. With all that and my parents fighting and the times i have to work at their restaurant. it all just gets so much. I've lived through fear my whole life. I know if i don't do something now,i wont be able to bear until I'm 18.
I'm completely aware of the consequences of becoming emancipated, its like walking into the nightmare of adulthood with all the bills and that kind of stress. I'd rather live in the kind of environment then the one i do now, it's just tearing me apart, i know if i get emancipated...my life'll be healthier. I do have a plan. I don't want the emancipation process to start until i have a stable job, and saved up some money. I don't know weather to stay in high school, or go to a community college and get my GED.
I know to be emancipated you have to have a stable income and sufficient maturity.
I'm just afraid that when this all goes down my mother is going to tell the court that all i want to do is get out so i can be a free lesbian, and be with my over 18 girlfriend which isn't true, also tell them that everything i say is a lie. my mother is a very smart women and has dealt with the law many times. She's very eloquent and can convince some one the sky is yellow.
I've thought this thing over and over for a really long time, and i feel like with the history my mom has that i can get emancipated.
I know the option is to call CPS and go into foster care, and i don't want that at all...i just want out, i can't deal with this.
I've tried and tried to suppress and just say. 'two more years, just two more years'
but i can't live in fear anymore, not this kind of fear anyway.
So i just need really need advise. Do i actually have a chance?