Oregon:
My wife was "in a tough spot" moving between housing setups from here to there to there when she became "homeless" for about 2 to 3 weeks... Nowhere to go but a 'shelter', no family in town to stay with, and taking care of her son 6, she decides to ask ex-lover to stay for a short time until she figures out where to go... (I'm not allowed to talk to wife at that time...)
After getting 501c3 funding for temp housing, wife moves into her own place...
I "CAN" talk to my wife a few months later and she confides in me to say there was sex involved with ex-lover while there... And that ex-lover raped her... And she fills me in on all the chaos over the previous 8-10 months...
I say file a police report... She say's she's unable to do it because of current situations between me, her, her son, the law, other people etc...
I say if you can't file a report then I guess it was consensual...
(and I think to myself, without saying it -- I will consider divorce then)
She is steadfast in her claim she was raped.
Is there any harm that could come to me if I notified police that my wife said she was raped?
And,
** Is there any law in Oregon, that could be 'similar' to the old alienation of affection law? -- Is there any law in Oregon to hold 'ex-lover' accountable for this alleged rape along with past court filings against my wife regarding custody matters between them, that include slanderous accusations of assault against my wife? That caused 'me' to hire attorneys for my wife to - in essence to, A. defend her, and B. protect me?... This person is directly responsible for upwards of $15,000.00 in legal bills to defend my wife / family (and thereby protecting myself) not to mention physical and emotional damage to me, my wife, and our marriage...

