My question involves adoption law for the State of: Kentucky.
Hello. I have skimmed through all of the related posts hoping to find the answer to my question but none of them seemed to have the exact same circumstances. So, if I [I]am[I] repeating, I do apologize.
I had a brief relationship while in the service with another service member (different branch) and became pregnant. When we realized we were pregnant we were based on different posts, halfway across the country. Via telephone we discussed abortion but in the end I couldn't bring myself to follow through. Shortly thereafter he decided that he couldn't/wouldn't be a part of the child's life for whatever reason.
At approx. three months gestation I became acquainted with my now husband. We married a year and a half later and have another child together. I contacted the child's bio-father (via cell-phone) in an attempt to have him agree to terminate his parental rights. He consented and stated he would email me his address for my lawyer to contact him. I never recieved anything and I no longer know where he is stationed. I've tried to contact him via phone and email with no luck, and have even tried the social networking sites. It's as if he's dropped off of the face of the earth. Honestly, he may have because he was in a special operations unit that deployed quite often. I am no longer in the service. His parents knew he impregnated someone (he stated this) but I have no idea who they are except they (at that time) lived in California. My husband would like to adopt my child but I'm assuming that since we can't find the bio-father that it will be a very costly event and, frankly, we are not millionaires.
My child is now three years old, the bio-father has never once seen him, he is not on the birth certificate, and I receive no support.
We now live in Kentucky but my child was born in Arkansas and my best guess is that bio-father is in California or West Virginia or over-seas.
If you can offer any advice it would be greatly appreciated.

