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    Default Ex is Receiving Child Support, but Child Lives With Grandmother

    My question involves child support in the State of: NH

    I am a confused young male and do not know what to do in my case. My ex has no legal custody at all of my 5 year old daughter, my daughter has lived with her grandmother(ex's mother) in Massachusetts for almost 4 years and has had legal permanent guardianship since 6/28/07 and has lived with her before that since 12/10/06. My ex filed for child support in April of '09 through DCSS. I got a letter about this 9 months later saying this. "CP completed application in April 2009 requesting child support. Obligation has ended because DCSS did not have address for her. Now that we do, obligation will continue at $86.00/wk. Had to reopen based on application, therefore you owe an arrearage of $3,010.00" This was the first time I ever was notified about this. I had already paid $688 to DCSS because I owed the state back because ex was on TANF back in "06 for about 2 months and then got off it. In November 2009 I called her case worker and was told that I did not owe anything else and there was no continued order for me to keep paying. She was clearly lying because in the end of December I received that letter I just talked about. The grandmother does not agree with it at all and was very upset because any money her daughter is getting should be going to her. I have no problem paying child support but I do not want the money going to the ex so she can use it on drugs. I'm currently behind and owe $4,400 to my ex when she isn't title to any money at all. They took $659 from my taxes and gave it to her. She said she was going to end the case and waive the fees but she has not done that. I am under the process of getting my daughter back but I am waiting for a court date to terminate guardianship in Mass. I am very stressed out because my beautiful daughter means so much to me and for my ex to use that money on herself is ridiculous. She has no job and is receiving disability and hardly sees my daughter. What can I do to end this case and waive the fees and possibly get a reimbursement of my money since I have a copy of a court order in Mass. saying the grandmother has permanent guardianship, so that is the proof I have. Is there anything I can do to get her in trouble for this. I've talked to her case worker about this but she is not willing to cooperate with me at all, I told her I had no job and they are taking way too much. I don't have any money to pay for an attorney and any help will be much appreciated. The child support order is in NH.

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    Default Re: Ex is Receiving Child Support, Child Has Been Living W/ Grandmother for Years:

    Quote Quoting Denny_
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    My question involves child support in the State of: NH

    I am a confused young male and do not know what to do in my case. My ex has no legal custody at all of my 5 year old daughter,


    This is where we need to start.


    Were you married to Mom?

    Does Grandma have custody, or guardianship? There is a very important and distinct difference.

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    Default Re: Ex is Receiving Child Support, Child Has Been Living W/ Grandmother for Years:

    Thanks for the reply.

    No I was never married to her.
    The grandmother has permanent guardianship which was ordered on 6/28/07 in Mass.
    My daughter has lived with her mother for the first year she was born and then stayed with me after for about 6 months and then my daughter went to live with her grandmother 12/10/06. Ex has never had custody.

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    Default Re: Ex is Receiving Child Support, Child Has Been Living W/ Grandmother for Years:

    Next question. When grandma took guardianship, did you file to modify the child support order? Why haven't YOU filed for custody?

    (I think you know where I'm going with this...)

    By the way - you NEED, for your child's sake, to COMPLETELY drop the "is there anything I can do to get her into trouble" attitude.

    That's only going to hurt your child.

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    Default Re: Ex is Receiving Child Support, Child Has Been Living W/ Grandmother for Years:

    huh? I was never ordered to pay child support in "07? Grandmother lives in Mass. and was never a child support order in that state. My ex filed in April 2009 in NH through DCSS even tho my daughter was living with grandmother. DCSS closed a case back in '06 but reopened it in April '09 and I was not notified till 9 months later.

    I didn't file for custody because I was still a teen in High school in '07. I have still been in her life to this day, I get her every other weekend, there is no visitation rights, but grandmother has been working with me to let me see her. I have filed a petition for termination of guardianship in Mass. and currently waiting for a court date and then I am going to file for full custody in NH because this is where I've always lived, same for my ex.

    I feel like what she is doing is wrong. I was just asking if there was some way to report her for fraud. She does not want anything to do with my daughter at all. It's just me and the grandmother. It's wrong of her to be receiving child support if my daughter isn't even living with her and hasn't in over 3 years. If anything she is the one who should be paying child support.

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