My question regards an Order for Protection in: the State of Washington
My ex was able to get an Order for Protection against me a few years back. A few months later, her parents called ME to talk about how we were going to settle the house/property and I talked with them (they also have an interest in the home). Then when the 1st order expired, they were able to get a second order because I had talked to her parents when THEY CALLED ME. Thus, I communicated with my ex via a 3rd party. Ok whatever.
So since the 2nd Order has been in place, her Aunt has called me twice on the ex's behalf - I didn't take the call. I called the aunt's office and asked that she stop communicating with me as it's a violation of the order (I have this conversation recorded). So she sent me a huge letter trying to settle the property stuff on my ex's behalf. I ignored it.
So today I get a summons(Petition for Dissolution of Meretricious Relationship - basically divorce papers) , with my EX as the petitioner (no attorney), and me as the respondent. It says I am supposed to have her (my ex) served with a copy of my response, which would be a violation of the Order for Protection!
I am on court record as my own legal representative. She was on file as having an attorney. So my Ex is only legally allowed to communicate with me through an attorney. Likewise, I am only allowed to communicate with her legal representative.
So what the heck am I supposed to do? Isn't she violating the Order over and over? Why do I get Orders against me when they are continually contacting me through means other than an attorney? Why is that OK?
If I don't respond to the summons, she will get a default judgment for everything she's asking. What do I do?

