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    Default 17 and Fed Up

    My question involves emancipation laws for the State of: WASHINGTON

    I am new to these boards, and all I ask for is HELP not RIDICULE. I am 17 years old and have tried everything I can think of to help myself understand my parents and the rules for 17 year olds.

    I have tried:
    • Talking to my parents
      Talking to my teachers/counsilors
      Talking to my friends
      Comparing situations with other 17 year olds
      Reading and rereading the laws on emancipation
      Trying to get a job
      Searching for an apartment on my own


    All I've ever been told is that I'm immature, that I don't know anything. Pardon me, but my friend's parents and even adults who are employed as managers at apartment complexes say I am very mature for my age and they always praise my level of independence. My parents always tell me that my friends and I are really stupid, immature, crazy, stupid and completely insane. I come home from school to be yelled at about my grades (I have A's and B's), about my choice of friends (I have less than 3 friends and they're all CLEAN and SOBER), about my choice in boyfriends (he's CLEAN, SOBER and DOESN'T ABUSE ME), about my actions (they don't want me to get a job or an apartment because they TELL me that I can't handle it).

    I have made so many mock budgets in the last few months that I've actually dug a friend out of an $8K debt in less than 3 months. I've also made appointments ON MY OWN with MY phone and MY eMail with several apartments to talk about renting information and other information and just to gain general experience if nothing else.

    I am unemployed. I have tried again and again to get a job the last two years and I've only ONCE out of over 100 jobs got a call and an interview. I realize that I need a job to get an apartment. I feel ready to gt out on my own so that I can have the freedom my parents say I have. In reality I don't have that freedom yet. They say I do, but really? Really? I can't date who I want? I can't decide for myself whether or not I'm ready to do something on my own? Really?

    I'm less than 2 months away from turning 18. There's no time to get a job anymore. I'm going to go to the cops soon if someone doesn't give me a healthier responce than "just stay at home, you immature brat. you're too young to be thinking on your own".

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    Honestly - even if you qualified for emancipation (which you don't), there's no way on this planet that it would be granted in two months.

    As for your questions about dating...yes, really. Until you turn 18, your parents are pretty much the law. What they say, goes. If they say you can't date X, then you can't date X.

    Why on earth do you think the police will help you?

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    Default Re: 17 and Fed Up

    The wheels of justice take longer than two months to get a court date.

    At 12:01 on your birthday, move out.

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    And even if you landed a job TODAY and a court date for TOMORROW, you've got to have a SOLID and DOCUMENTED employment history that has lasted long enough to convince a judge that you could maintain self sufficiency - and with only 2 months, there's no chance.

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    I feel ready to gt out on my own so that I can have the freedom my parents say I have. In reality I don't have that freedom yet. They say I do, but really? Really? I can't date who I want? I can't decide for myself whether or not I'm ready to do something on my own? Really?
    Yes, really. Until you reach the age of 18, you are your parents' property.

    Life is pain, Highness. Anyone who tells you differently is trying to sell you something.


    I'm going to go to the cops soon if someone doesn't give me a healthier responce than "just stay at home, you immature brat.
    And you think the police are going to do...what, precisely? If I were the desk officer you ran crying to, I'd laugh at you and send you home, because you ARE immature if you think this is something meriting police involvement.

    Move out on your 18th birthday. Then you'll have all the freedom you want.

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    Default Re: 17 and Fed Up

    One thing to consider as you start packing...

    Severing the bond between yourself and your parents goes both ways.

    When you leave the house to go be a grown up, your parents can change the locks and never have any input into your life again.

    They, too, are off the hook.

    No money, no insurance, no contact, no laundry, no meals... not even a card on your birthday.

    There are very few things more humiliating to see than a determined and insolent child come crawling home after a huge "I don't need you anymore and you can't do anything about it" scene.

    Personally, I don't think you have any idea what the real world is like... for instance, you will never get an apartment without a job history...much less a job itself.

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    I have tried again and again to get a job the last two years and I've only ONCE out of over 100 jobs got a call and an interview.

    And this is the fault of your parents how? Couldn't possibly be because of your inexperience in a bad economy, could it? Do you REALLY think that if you move out of the house that will change your job prospects?

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    Quote Quoting lawresearchermissy
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    life is pain, highness. Anyone who tells you differently is trying to sell you something.

    i love that movie!!!

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    My question involves emancipation laws for the State of: WASHINGTON

    I am new to these boards, and all I ask for is HELP not RIDICULE. I am 17 years old and have tried everything I can think of to help myself understand my parents and the rules for 17 year olds.

    I have tried:
    • Talking to my parents
      Talking to my teachers/counsilors
      Talking to my friends
      Comparing situations with other 17 year olds
      Reading and rereading the laws on emancipation
      Trying to get a job
      Searching for an apartment on my own


    All I've ever been told is that I'm immature, that I don't know anything. Pardon me, but my friend's parents and even adults who are employed as managers at apartment complexes say I am very mature for my age and they always praise my level of independence. My parents always tell me that my friends and I are really stupid, immature, crazy, stupid and completely insane. I come home from school to be yelled at about my grades (I have A's and B's), about my choice of friends (I have less than 3 friends and they're all CLEAN and SOBER), about my choice in boyfriends (he's CLEAN, SOBER and DOESN'T ABUSE ME), about my actions (they don't want me to get a job or an apartment because they TELL me that I can't handle it).

    I have made so many mock budgets in the last few months that I've actually dug a friend out of an $8K debt in less than 3 months. I've also made appointments ON MY OWN with MY phone and MY eMail with several apartments to talk about renting information and other information and just to gain general experience if nothing else.

    I am unemployed. I have tried again and again to get a job the last two years and I've only ONCE out of over 100 jobs got a call and an interview. I realize that I need a job to get an apartment. I feel ready to gt out on my own so that I can have the freedom my parents say I have. In reality I don't have that freedom yet. They say I do, but really? Really? I can't date who I want? I can't decide for myself whether or not I'm ready to do something on my own? Really?

    I'm less than 2 months away from turning 18. There's no time to get a job anymore. I'm going to go to the cops soon if someone doesn't give me a healthier responce than "just stay at home, you immature brat. you're too young to be thinking on your own".
    Honestly sweetie, you are immature, and you really open yourself up to the 'brat' thing. You're two months shy of your 18th b'day, and poor princess doesn't like the rules. I think that you are overstating things just a bit here. You have your OWN phone and email? Without a job, how are you paying for them? People praise your level of independance? Who instilled that in you? If your parents are questioning your grades, your friends and your boyfriends, they sound pretty involved to me, so you can't claim neglect, only caring. There's 'no time to get a job anymore'? Really? You're 17, and there's no time? Hmmmm, what are you going to do for the next 50 years then?

    As you've been told, emancipation for you is NOT an option. You've managed to live with your parents for nearly 18 years, 2 months shouldn't be a problem. As you were told, you can move out at 12:01am on your 18th birthday, and live on the streets if you like (which is where you'll end up without a job/means to support yourself). Good luck with that sweetheart, cause goodwill of friends only goes so far. There WILL come a day in your life when you realize that being an adult and taking care of yourself isn't all it's cracked up to be. I've got five adult children that would be MORE than happy to give you the low down on that one.

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