My question involves divorce in the State of: North Carolina.
I understand that NC is a 50/50 state when it comes to the assets and debts.
Long story, please bare with me...
I believe my marriage has run it's course. My husband has become a drunken drug addict who has never contributed to our marriage and I can no longer handle him. He is stealing from me left and right and tearing me in pieces. He is absolutely insane, and has been deemed insane. He's even pled insane in court before and got off of charges for it. He lives in and out of hospitals, trying to get pain medications, and using the system. I haven't been able to deal with this for years but I've tried to get him help. He's threatening my life daily, and I can no longer function in this life.
I have been married for 5 years. Of those 5 years, my husband has never worked a day. He began receiving disability around 4 years ago - SSI - a total of $674 a month. He is mentally disabled. Schizophrenic, manic depressive, multiple personalities, you name it. He did not seem like this before we got married, it all started afterward. I'm a full time student at a university and we both have lived with my grandparents since day one because they had planned to give me their home and refused to let me live elsewhere. They would not put the home in my name because they were afraid my husband would end up with it. I lost my job 2 years ago, so I have been struggling to pay his medical bills and what bills I do have. Luckily, my grandparents have helped me along the way.
Now, I think it's time that I get a divorce. I am living in hospitals trying to get my husband committed to an asylum as he has had so many near death experiences from suicidal tendencies, and the healthcare system will not help him. He has been involuntarily committed in a hospital setting over 100x in the past year, yet no one will send him to be evaluated because they can't control him. They just let him go. He has been in the hospital 5 times this week for just random things, he has munchausen syndrome and thinks something is wrong at all times. He has drug me down to the point where I can't concentrate on my degree anymore and I am falling into a bleak hole.
My concern is, what can he take from our marriage? Everything I own is in my grandparents house. It's only sentimental trinkets and a television that I purchased and a few collectables I've gotten over the years, but he knows he could make money off of these items for his drugs, so he's threatened to take everything I own. He has never spent a dime on anything in this home. He owns a cd player and a dresser and his clothes. Everything else, he has sold for drugs, including my belongings. We share nothing in our names, not even a bank account (not after he stole over $3000 for me after we got married). I owe almost $30,000 in credit card debt since I lost my job 2 years back and have been needing to file bankruptcy, but couldn't do it since I didn't have the money to do so. I had paid his medical bills, lawyers, etc to get him out of so much because I felt sorry for him, and now I am left with nothing. Luckily, my car is in my grandparents name. I have nothing in my bank account anymore, he's wiped all out but maybe $20.
I do have quite a few animals, and I am afraid that he would try to take them. He's never paid for one vet bill, one feed bag, one animal, etc. I do not want them to take them away from me as I have been their caregiver since day one. I don't own any large valuables because I was always too afraid he'd sell them. Will I have to sell everything that I own to split 50/50 with him? Am I going to have to pay him something monthly for the rest of my life because he's disabled? Gosh, this is a difficult situation.

