Ok- this is a really complicated issue and I am torn between the truth and keeping someone I care for out of jail- Jan 2010- my bf and I got into a HUGE verbal dispute about him using steroids and he ended up choking me and throwing me unconscious into the floor..when I was out he kicked me in the ribs and broke three of them. I was treated and released from the hospital. He was arrested and placed on probation and anger management. He was doing alot better and kicked the steroids.Well last week, after a long day at work and an excrutiating dental procedure, I went to bed early. He got upset that I was sleeping and began to verbally abuse me like he had never done before. I am sure he is back on the steroids..I had enough and ordered him to leave. We argued from my bedroom to my kitchen where I went to grab my phone and stated I was going to call the cops b/c I was scared of what he may do. He went for my cell and we got into a scuffle on the floor, I stood up and he grabbed the back of my hair and choked me until I saw stars.*** and threw me against my granite counter. I asked again for him to leave and he refused so I grabbed my work cell and called the police dept (not 911) and requested that they escort him out. He couldnt believe that I did that b/c he was on probation!! He ran and the cops caught him up the street (I live 2 blocks from the police dept!)..
Ok so here's my conflict- I know he screwed up and is facing jail time for probation violation & 2nd DV charge in less than 5 months. We aren't together but do talk frequently... he is trying to lay a guilt trip on me by saying his fate "lays in my hands"..and he will lose everything if he gets jail time. He pretty much wants me to go to court and change the story a bit and make it look like I gave the cops false information (that he didnt touch me).. I'm sorry but I am a christian and don't like lying... plus I know that could cause me to be facing criminal charges for false report, right? I can't do that. I am a RN and cannot risk losing my licsences. I have children.. what advice would you give me? I am afraid that if he gets locked up that he will come after me when he gets out....but HE broke the law-that's not my fault. I feel the only way I can safely get away from this guy is to tell the truth even if he goes to jail... I'm scared. Please HELP.
Advice would be appreciated.
Thanks
PJ in North Carolina

