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Recently I became pregnant with another man and at the time I found out I was drinking and taking pain killers to often so I decided to go to rehab for 2 weeks to clean it out of my system so the baby wasn't impacted.
If you were taking opiates, the standard of care would normally be some form of maintenance (usually methadone maintenance) during the pregnancy, as opiate withdrawal during pregnancy can trigger a miscarriage. Also, a two-week program is barely more than a detox, so if you need "rehab" you should be enrolled at least in an IOP.
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I currently have 50/50 custody with the dad. The dad is now threatening to take me to court over custody of my current daughter because I left (he knew I was going). Can he do this because I was gone for 2 weeks to better myself?
If you were just fine, thank you very much, as a parent before going in for detox, appropriate arrangements were made for the child during detox, and you are presently stable in a recovery program, the mere fact that you went through a two week program isn't a compelling basis for modification of custody. But there are other facts, not known to us, that could affect a court's best interest analysis.
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To add to the problem, the father of my unborn child lives in Florida and is currently in jail for probation violation. He left the state without consent. He previously had a felony drug charge a few years ago. When he is out of jail he plans to move to maryland to help raise the baby but I am worried my Ex will try to take my daughter from me.
If your drug-addicted, convicted felon, probationer boyfriend moves into your home, that's not a good sign either for the stability or appropriateness of the home, or for your recovery. If he plans to live elsewhere and participate in the raising of his own child, then it isn't likely to be an issue.
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If my new boyfriend/childs father is completely drug free and clean would my Ex be able to do that?
I've been around people in recovery for a long time, and... no, I don't buy that the baby is going to turn you and your boyfriend into loving, drug-free parents. I wish things worked that way, but the overwhelming majority of the time, they don't. Recovery is a long process, very often punctuated by relapse.