That's right it wasn't mine.

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I used the guidelines as a reference. She is 7 and hasn't spent much extended time away from me. Even the 2 weeks pushed it and she cried the last 4 nights. Obviously next summer would hopefully be easier for her. I used them as a reference but not every kid benefits from one plan.

I read Oregon doesn't give joint legal custody without both parents agreement. Am I wrong in that?

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Sorry I keep adding. I'm not opposed to changing the order. The only reason it's only my say is because he didn't join in the discussion. I was more worried about being dragged into court.
I moved my daughter and family to be closer to him. Just because we stopped seeing eye to eye doesn't make him any less important to her wellbeing.
We spent so long making it work but I still think having a set plan will avoi arguments. They are healthy at all for anyone.