I know you're not intending for it to be an insult, L, but not having a job isn't always a case of lazy-itis.

Take me.

Not working. In a catch 22 situation because despite a worsening of physical disease, I don't have enough quarters to qualify for SSDI, and I can't get SSI because our household income is *just* (and I mean *just*) above the income limits. Of course I could feasibly enforce the I-864, but given that CrazyEx is..well...crazy and on disability himself, that's going to mean exactly nothing in realistic terms.

I heavily doubt that this is the case for the OP's soon to be ex, but yeah.