Thanks for the information...
So this is the update...
The ex emailed me, stating a notice of TRO and the courthouse where filed, etc..etc.. (still not served with any papers, as of yet)
I filed a written complaint to the sheriffs office about the phone call about the officers conduct.
Now a few questions I did have, since you mention the DA and civil cases... They said that it's criminal case for posting nude pictures or whatever, I don't even know exactly what they were referring to, said something about facebook, and my facebook has never had any of that stuff. He said that stuff was criminal in California and I'm the main suspect in an investigation or something.
Since I didn't do it, I'm not worried about the IP thing or any of that.
I've been divorced in the past, so I know how screwed up judges can be. I will look into the telephone appearing thing, but from the research I gathered so far, they won't do that. You have to appear in person. Or lose by default. This is where I get concerned... I don't want to spend 5k+ to travel and lose work and defend my self to frivolous nonsense that has completely no merit.
I know I haven't been served yet, but I'm just preparing myself in case... I don't want to lose my 2nd amendment, or have any issues with child custody with a different ex, or have any work related issues. Esp. something based off hearsay.
Just crossing my fingers that it will somehow blow over and nothing happens to my record. Last thing I want is to lose a bunch more money on having to get rid of my firearms for 10 years for some bs DV charge with no merit. That's the worse thing of all. They shouldn't even be able to get a TRO without proof of anything. Hearsay to ruin someones life and career is complete and udder bs. If I was local it wouldn't be a big deal to show up and defend myself, but when they do this across state lines, it really does screw innocent people over.

