Ok, so... I'm assuming your ex-gf is a malicious prick. First off, I strongly doubt that she is going to use civil discovery in an attempt to allege that you posted these "alleged" nude pictures. I mean, that would require her having an IP address, proving that you were at the location that the IP address is located at, and so forth. So, right off the bat, I'm assuming she has no evidence to prove that you posted those nude pictures. Furthermore, if those judges are worth their salt, they damn well knew that, especially if there was no motion for discovery. Many people like restraining orders, because they are free. As such, you can generally assume that no petitioner is going to hire an attorney or spend a cent actually seeking a restraining order. In many ways, a person who is serious about protection will be attempting to involve the police (which seems to have happened her, so be careful). You may want to get copies of police reports against you by using the Freedom of Information Act, thus polling the police department in her city for police reports against you. Also, you may want to be aware of the Rule of Evidence 803(8)..something, whereby police reports are hearsay without the witnessing police officer present. More than likely, if the district attorney is not involved in the case, the ex will be too ignorant of the law in order to win the civil case against you if you deny everything, which appears to be your situation.

In reference to the police officer, I'm surprised the police officer was not from Bumpkin, California. California is a two-party consent state when it comes to telephone communications, so unless one individual gives permission (implied or explicit) for a telephone conversation to be recorded (say one side, an automated message, states that a call will be recorded--if even for training purposes), then the police officer cannot use anything you say over the telephone as evidence against you. However, I'm not sure how speakphones work, reasonable suspcion from telephone calls, and so forth. Hell, I'm not too sure if you could have hung up on the police officer: I think you could have. If the police officer left a threatening message on your voicemail, you may want to take the issue to an attorney and determine if the police officer is liable for anything.

If your ex is using false accusation, harassment, and slander, then you may want to go file suit against her. Hire an attorney to go take care of that. Defamation is a different issue from restraining orders. Harassment, however, is something that may be actionable, thus enabling you to file a restraining order against her. If you have evidence of the harassment, I suggest you seek a restraining order against your ex-gf as soon as possible, especially if you plan on escalating the issue with a defamation lawsuit (you may want to learn about the tort of false light).

Ironically screwed up? Well... the legal system does not see it that way. And yeah, until babies are born with chips in their brains that enable anyone to be an attorney, I understand that people are ignorant of the law. However, the legal system believes that no one is ignorant of the law (whatever that means in relation to the philosophy of law). As such, any pro se individual is just as powerful as an attorney. You might be able to talk to the courthouse where your ex file and see if you can do some long distance telephony kind of thing. Ask what your options are.

Why can the court system allow her to file without any proof? Well, if you could ever get a judge to admit it, I reason it's about money. Restraining orders are a way for government systems to make money. It's about money. Good luck getting a judge to admit to felony fraud, however. Sometimes people are a danger to others and the restraining orders are valuable. I do not believe that you are an imminent threat to her.

That you have emails telling her to leave you alone is not relevant when you're the defendant. However, those emails and her actions against you may work well in you petitioning for a restraining order against her. If you're darn sure you have no interest in ever associating with that woman again, want nothing more to do with her, and she is dead to you, then go file a restraining order against her. After you get done fighting off the restraining order (if she did place it on you), I suggest you get an attorney and sue her.

You may want to research concepts, such as "mens rea" and "actus reus." Also, you may want to read about appeal rights. And, in addition, you may want to read the state statues and legislation in relation to the restraining order that was allegedly filed against you.

Also, that you work for the government and are allegedly high-security, I suggest you start learning to think like an attorney. It might help you fight off other members of the government who give a capitalistic, dog-eat-dog appearance.