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    Default Stalking for a Civil Harassment Restraining Order

    My question involves restraining orders in the State of: California

    I'm curious if I can obtain a civil harassment restraining order. I've had someone stalking my home for about a month and a half now.

    In the beginning of December my ex's ex wife's mothers conduct toward me was seriously alarming. And it's continuing. (Yes, my ex's ex's mother.) She came to my home searching for my ex, with whom I share a child. She was seeking (we'll call him Dave) to serve him papers because her daughter was taking him to court again for custody of the child they share. She's the grandmother. Her daughters relationship with Dave was before me.

    This was the third occurrence, of her showing up to my home in Dec 2012. But I had seen her driving past my home several times toward the end of November 2012. I hadn't seen her since Jan 2012 when we had a few play dates with the kids at my home. (my daughters has a half brother through her father, if you didn't catch that.) December 4th she showed up to my home several times aggressively knocking on the door. The excess, made me uncomfortable, so I didn't answer because I was scared. Who knocks like that? I looked out a window and saw her van. Much of the following day the same thing occurred, I ignored it. On tues, she drove up as I was leaving my on street parking spot. She double parked on the wrong side of the street, blocking my vehicle in. She exited her car, And demanded to know where Dave was. I was intimidated, but told her I didn't know, that I didn't monitor Dave's activities. She said she needed to give him some papers. Again, I told her I didn't know where he was. She accused me of housing Dave and hiding him. I felt bullied into telling her where he was staying, she and her daughter hadn't seen him in a year and claimed not to know. She said they had been attempting to build their case against Dave, and that they had driven by and seen Dave "around" during the past month. I got upset and asked why she was stalking my home. She said she had been driving by because she would drive (her grandson) to school. His school is one street over, you'd have to be driving over to my street purposefully.

    I felt harassed or bullied into explaining my custody situation with my daughter and Dave, that he comes to my house to visit with his daughter because its what I am comfortable with. She started crying hysterically, saying I didn't know what they had been through. She admitted to sitting down the street and watching, waiting for me. It was awkward and scary to hear that. I told her Dave and I were friends. *But they know when our relationship dissolved, as Dave and I (when he and I lived together) were her daughters next door neighbors and I moved out. Nightmare. She went on a rant about how she knew Dave was unfaithful to me and was a snake. She spent several minutes telling me about the information they were trying to aquire to use it against Dave in court. She said she and her daughter had driven to my work place, and sat in the parking lot, 3 times to tell me about Dave's terrible behaviors, hoping I could provide them with information. I told her I wasn't interested, and that her and her daughters problems were not something I was interested in getting involved in, I have my own problems with Dave and custody. She could see I needed to tend to my children, but wouldn't leave. She kept trying to engaging me, asking me personal questions, It was so weird.

    She asked why had my door been locked earlier in the day, and was now unlocked? -so she attempted to open my front door?
    She asked about my back door entrance. Did I use that door? She'd seen Dave using that entrance!
    She demanded to know what Dave and his friend had been doing at my home. -I got a kitten and Dave did me a favor, brought his vet tech friend over to administer vaccines, its a lower cost way of doing things. But it was none of her business. I'm not good with confrontation.

    She then stated she called section 8 housing and had told them Dave had been living at my house. --but that she would correct that. She would let them know she was mistaken. I was emotionally upset that she's involving me so. Trying to build up Dave in a negative light, by accusing him of illegally residing with me. --I feel like she and her daughter were trying to hurt him through me. They clearly have no idea how child custody proceedings go.

    So, all through December she's been driving by, yesterday she parked down the street and was just sitting there. I would like this woman to stop stalking my home. I feel really really uncomfortable. And not sit in my workplace parking lot contemplating approaching me.

    Is there a chance I can get a civil harassment restraining order for stalking or harassment?

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    Default Re: Stalking for a Civil Harassment Restraining Order

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    My question involves restraining orders in the State of: California

    I'm curious if I can obtain a civil harassment restraining order. I've had someone stalking my home for about a month and a half now.

    In the beginning of December my ex's ex wife's mothers conduct toward me was seriously alarming. And it's continuing. (Yes, my ex's ex's mother.) She came to my home searching for my ex, with whom I share a child. She was seeking (we'll call him Dave) to serve him papers because her daughter was taking him to court again for custody of the child they share. She's the grandmother. Her daughters relationship with Dave was before me.

    This was the third occurrence, of her showing up to my home in Dec 2012. But I had seen her driving past my home several times toward the end of November 2012. I hadn't seen her since Jan 2012 when we had a few play dates with the kids at my home. (my daughters has a half brother through her father, if you didn't catch that.) December 4th she showed up to my home several times aggressively knocking on the door. The excess, made me uncomfortable, so I didn't answer because I was scared. Who knocks like that? I looked out a window and saw her van. Much of the following day the same thing occurred, I ignored it. On tues, she drove up as I was leaving my on street parking spot. She double parked on the wrong side of the street, blocking my vehicle in. She exited her car, And demanded to know where Dave was. I was intimidated, but told her I didn't know, that I didn't monitor Dave's activities. She said she needed to give him some papers. Again, I told her I didn't know where he was. She accused me of housing Dave and hiding him. I felt bullied into telling her where he was staying, she and her daughter hadn't seen him in a year and claimed not to know. She said they had been attempting to build their case against Dave, and that they had driven by and seen Dave "around" during the past month. I got upset and asked why she was stalking my home. She said she had been driving by because she would drive (her grandson) to school. His school is one street over, you'd have to be driving over to my street purposefully.

    I felt harassed or bullied into explaining my custody situation with my daughter and Dave, that he comes to my house to visit with his daughter because its what I am comfortable with. She started crying hysterically, saying I didn't know what they had been through. She admitted to sitting down the street and watching, waiting for me. It was awkward and scary to hear that. I told her Dave and I were friends. *But they know when our relationship dissolved, as Dave and I (when he and I lived together) were her daughters next door neighbors and I moved out. Nightmare. She went on a rant about how she knew Dave was unfaithful to me and was a snake. She spent several minutes telling me about the information they were trying to aquire to use it against Dave in court. She said she and her daughter had driven to my work place, and sat in the parking lot, 3 times to tell me about Dave's terrible behaviors, hoping I could provide them with information. I told her I wasn't interested, and that her and her daughters problems were not something I was interested in getting involved in, I have my own problems with Dave and custody. She could see I needed to tend to my children, but wouldn't leave. She kept trying to engaging me, asking me personal questions, It was so weird.

    She asked why had my door been locked earlier in the day, and was now unlocked? -so she attempted to open my front door?
    She asked about my back door entrance. Did I use that door? She'd seen Dave using that entrance!
    She demanded to know what Dave and his friend had been doing at my home. -I got a kitten and Dave did me a favor, brought his vet tech friend over to administer vaccines, its a lower cost way of doing things. But it was none of her business. I'm not good with confrontation.

    She then stated she called section 8 housing and had told them Dave had been living at my house. --but that she would correct that. She would let them know she was mistaken. I was emotionally upset that she's involving me so. Trying to build up Dave in a negative light, by accusing him of illegally residing with me. --I feel like she and her daughter were trying to hurt him through me. They clearly have no idea how child custody proceedings go.

    So, all through December she's been driving by, yesterday she parked down the street and was just sitting there. I would like this woman to stop stalking my home. I feel really really uncomfortable. And not sit in my workplace parking lot contemplating approaching me.

    Is there a chance I can get a civil harassment restraining order for stalking or harassment?
    Maybe...I certainly think you should try. This grandma is obviously out of control and over involved.

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