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    Default Re: Failure to Complete Domestic Violence Classes During Probation

    As they have said....the fines are going to be a lot more than the classes, plus potential for jail. He needs to take responsibility for this and contact the court asap.

    I would advise seeking help with Community Mental Health or Planned Parenthood. You are already with two kids you can't afford and a third on the way. Both offer sliding-scale services for birth control. Michigan has a plan called Plan First, and I get my birth control for free. When I was employed, I got Depo Provera on a sliding-scale fee. It's a shot that lasts three months, and it was $40. Definitely worth looking into after your baby is born. Planned Parenthood can also assist you in getting supplies for the baby, and if you are being abused, refer you to assistance.

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    Default Re: Failure to Complete Domestic Violence Classes During Probation

    Your advice to me was to ...abort my child, in order to feel better prepared for my husband to go to jail? ...Seriously?
    I'm fully aware of how to "prevent" a child. This baby was very planned, and I'm 20 weeks. No going back now. ...Thanks though. I think.

    Quote Quoting PandorasBox
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    As they have said....the fines are going to be a lot more than the classes, plus potential for jail. He needs to take responsibility for this and contact the court asap.

    I would advise seeking help with Community Mental Health or Planned Parenthood. You are already with two kids you can't afford and a third on the way. Both offer sliding-scale services for birth control. Michigan has a plan called Plan First, and I get my birth control for free. When I was employed, I got Depo Provera on a sliding-scale fee. It's a shot that lasts three months, and it was $40. Definitely worth looking into after your baby is born. Planned Parenthood can also assist you in getting supplies for the baby, and if you are being abused, refer you to assistance.
    Upon reviewing his court order, it simply states, by the judge that my husband is ordered to remain on Unsupervised probation for 11 months and 29 days. And court in June will simply be a "Review" of that court order. It states at the bottom in different hand writing that his wife simply requested he take a 26 weeks court of "DV classes."

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    Default Re: Failure to Complete Domestic Violence Classes During Probation

    Quote Quoting John.Byars79
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    Your advice to me was to ...abort my child, in order to feel better prepared for my husband to go to jail? ...Seriously?
    I'm fully aware of how to "prevent" a child. This baby was very planned, and I'm 20 weeks. No going back now. ...Thanks though. I think.
    OP, I think you are mis-reading the intent of Pandora's post. (I don't think) Pandora was advocating you get an abortion. She was indicating that you could get assistance with birth control going forward if you are unable to afford that protection.

    I responsed to you, and perhaps others did as well, under a basic assumption that with strained finances and two children you wouldn't plan to increase the stress by creating another baby. You indicate that the child was planned however, and that just emphasizes the need for future financial planning. Wasn't the argument that brought this situation to a head over money? Yet, after that fight and his arrest you choose to create a child which can cost hundreds of thousands of dollars to raise rather than investing in some classes to help your husband control his behavior? The priorities here seem out of whack

    Perhaps your husband will get lucky in court. I am much less hopeful for you in this marriage. I hope I am wrong. Good luck

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    Default Re: Failure to Complete Domestic Violence Classes During Probation

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    OP, I think you are mis-reading the intent of Pandora's post. (I don't think) Pandora was advocating you get an abortion. She was indicating that you could get assistance with birth control going forward if you are unable to afford that protection.

    I responsed to you, and perhaps others did as well, under a basic assumption that with strained finances and two children you wouldn't plan to increase the stress by creating another baby. You indicate that the child was planned however, and that just emphasizes the need for future financial planning. Wasn't the argument that brought this situation to a head over money? Yet, after that fight and his arrest you choose to create a child which can cost hundreds of thousands of dollars to raise rather than investing in some classes to help your husband control his behavior? The priorities here seem out of whack

    Perhaps your husband will get lucky in court. I am much less hopeful for you in this marriage. I hope I am wrong. Good luck



    Agreed 1000%.

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    Default Re: Failure to Complete Domestic Violence Classes During Probation

    Planned Parenthood offers many other services besides abortion. I don't see where Pandy mentioned abortion at all.

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    Quote Quoting cbg
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    Planned Parenthood offers many other services besides abortion. I don't see where Pandy mentioned abortion at all.


    She didn't.

    But it's often easier to read into things than to face the harsh truth which is, in this case, the OP frankly - in her own words - can't AFFORD to have another child.


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