My husband & I have been separated almost 2 yrs & I have a restraining order. It's been a very difficult 2 yrs because he sees kids maybe a few hrs a month & has given us no financial help. I filed for child support in Feb 07 & there is still no progress (they say they only have 1 part time server). Last week my kids had the week off, I only had Thurs & Fri - my husband said he would watch them but only at my house. He ended up staying Thanksgiving & on Friday we started arguing again & he got rough (major anger management problem). THe bottom line is I called cops. He had a warrant out for his arrest (he skipped probation & anger classes).
They took pics of some cuts on my hand from trying to grab car keys from him (he took my car although it's in his name) & pic of my 9 year old who he grabbed by his shoulder/back of neck. Him grabbing my son was what set up this entire fight.
My question: is this a violation of the restraining order although I let him in. Could I be at fault too for allowing him to be in the house. I could have missed 3 days of work, but risked my job. I'm financially hanging by strings so thats not an option. Throughout the 2 yr separation, I have been constantly put into this situation. He will only help me if he could watch kids at my house or buy us groceries if he could come over.
Thanks for any input.

