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    Default Custodial Refuses Visitation What Can I Do

    My question involves a child custody case from the State of: N

    Two weeks now I dont see my child since custodial is not bringing him at designated pickup location. She wants me to go to another address not included in the court. Just because she “has family emergency”. I told her Im only going where the court ordered to not another location. How can I make her enforce the order?

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    Default Re: Custodial Refuses Visitation What Can I Do

    It's just beyond you to be the least bit accommodating isn't it?

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    If the other parent has a valid reason for asking for the change, a court will admonish you for being so inflexible. Co-parenting is an active issue. Things change; life happens. If you expect the other parent to stick to the exact letter of the order, then don’t get upset when they complain you are 2 minutes late at the exchange or any other rediculously minute detail.


    Unless the change causes a hardship or you have reason to believe there are ulterior motives, then be a good person and accomodate the request.


    If you want to make make a bad name for yourself in court, file a motion seeking the other parent be held in contempt for not complying with the current order.

    Courts tend to remember parents that are problematic.

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    According to her mother, stepmother grandfather was sick for two weeks and died yesterday and my ex younger child was at emergency last night due to the flu. She wants me to go to stepmother family location not mention in the order. I told her to bring him to a police station and she refused. She offer extra days but wants me to pickup at the other location. She offered overnight not enforce yet in the order but wanted me to buy him clothes. Now been three weeks without seeing my child or talking to him over the phone because she insist on using another phone that is not her personal number. So I had to blocked the other one as well or any message from her because she keep asking things not enforce in the order.

    I dont want to go to another location because she filed a police report saying I disappeared with my child for few hours after she asked me to bring him to another location. Her excuse was that she filed it because I blocked her number and she had no way to communicate with me and the number I was texting her she though I blocked it as well. Thats why I dont go to another location. Shes the one unwilling to coparent. What can I do to solve this?

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    There's nothing you can do to solve this as long as you continue to think that all her actions have to be for your convenience. You should be allowed to bend the order but she has to follow it exactly, unless if would benefit you for her to bend the order in which case she should do so. Meanwhile as long as it works for you you're going to follow it to the letter regardless of her convenience, but as soon as it's no longer convenient for you it's okay to break it. As long as that's your attitude, which it has been as long as you've been posting her under any name, there is no solution to your problem.

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    Default Re: Custodial Refuses Visitation What Can I Do

    For the love of Pete, GO AWAY. We are tired of hearing your deal.

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    She’s violating the order for a whole month and im the bad one?

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    You blocked a number bcasue it’s not her usual number?


    youve got some real problems. She can use any phone she wants to use unless she is required to use a specific number per the court order.


    She has offered additional “compensation” due to the request you pick up the child at an unscheduled location


    for Pete’s sake; stop being a jerk and learn how to get along for the sake of your child.




    edit to add:

    i just realized who this is.

    You arent ever going to be happy, are you.

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    Yes. You are the bad one. I don't know how to make it any more clear than that.

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    My question involves a child custody case from the State of: N

    Two weeks now I dont see my child since custodial is not bringing him at designated pickup location. She wants me to go to another address not included in the court. Just because she “has family emergency”. I told her Im only going where the court ordered to not another location. How can I make her enforce the order?
    She had a family emergency and she asked you to be cooperative. You refused. So YOU are deciding not to see your kid because YOU are a selfish POS. If you try to take her to court for contempt and the judge finds out she was trying to work with you when she had an emergency, the judge is going to be mad at YOU. YOU are the problem you realize this right?

    There is nothing that says you can't deviate from the order if an emergency comes up. So what if you had an emergency and you couldn't meet her at the place - is it okay for her to say "no you have to meet me here."

    Be reasonable. I guess you're not seeing your kid until the next time you have visitation then.

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    According to her mother, stepmother grandfather was sick for two weeks and died yesterday and my ex younger child was at emergency last night due to the flu. She wants me to go to stepmother family location not mention in the order. I told her to bring him to a police station and she refused. She offer extra days but wants me to pickup at the other location. She offered overnight not enforce yet in the order but wanted me to buy him clothes. Now been three weeks without seeing my child or talking to him over the phone because she insist on using another phone that is not her personal number. So I had to blocked the other one as well or any message from her because she keep asking things not enforce in the order.

    I dont want to go to another location because she filed a police report saying I disappeared with my child for few hours after she asked me to bring him to another location. Her excuse was that she filed it because I blocked her number and she had no way to communicate with me and the number I was texting her she though I blocked it as well. Thats why I dont go to another location. Shes the one unwilling to coparent. What can I do to solve this?
    HOLY SHIT - she offered you MORE time and you said no? Her grandpa died. Her other child is in the hospital. Be a HUMAN BEING and work with her to see your kid. It's YOUR fault you haven't seen the kid. YOU. No one else. YOU.

    No she is 100% TRYING to coparent. YOU aren't. What can you do to solve this? BE AN ADULT! That's all you can do.

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    She’s violating the order for a whole month and im the bad one?
    She's not violating the order - she offered you more time if you met her during a family emergency. She was trying to work with you. So you know what go ahead and file contempt. I wish I could see the judge tear you apart when he or she hears that she tried to coparent with you and you refused.

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