My question involves a marriage in the state of: Georgia
I am going through a contested, drawn out divorce (filed a year ago). She is the Defendant, and we have no kids. She wants medical bill payment and permanent alimony.
We had a hearing in May, the outcome of which I was ordered the following until Discovery for both sides has been completed:
- Temporary monthly alimony, which I have paid up
- Also: "Plaintiff shall continue to provide health insurance for the Defendant. Plaintiff shall be responsible for any out-of-pocket uncovered medical expenses incurred by the Defendant from January 2018 until further order of this Court. The parties are ordered to cooperate with one another in insuring these bills are paid and in any efforts to reduce the out-of-pocket amount owed."
She has not been cooperative with me. I tried to contact her in the initial months after the May hearing to see about bills, and she has only sent me 3. She paid one before she sent it to me. I paid another. The 3rd bill was not cleared by my attorney, so it has gone unpaid. She has more, but she hasn't sent them to me. I told her she needs to do so. My attorney said not to beg her for them.
She has not been cooperative with her attorney either. We had until August to complete Discovery, and she has not provided sufficient documents or sufficient Interrogatories answers (not signed under Oath). My attorney filed a Motion to Compel and requested temporary alimony and medical bill payment be suspended. Her attorney has submitted a Notice of Withdrawal of Counsel and now a Motion for an Order Permitting Withdrawal of Counsel.
The judge has not answered any motions as of yet.
After her attorney put in his motions to withdraw, she started communicating with me more and more after a while of not hearing from her. She is asking what the plan is about settling the bills, of which I already told her. She is asking what the plan is to reimburse her for bills already paid. Neither my attorney nor I understand that the Judge's order includes reimbursement. It talks about *bill* payment. I've told her all of this, and the tone and frequency of her emails has become harassing, threatening, argumentative and annoying - far from cooperative. I told my attorney about her emails, and he said to just pay the alimony and don't communicate with her at all. Once her attorney is off the case, she will have to deal directly with him.
She sent another email last night, however, that has included more insults and now name calling, and even more threats. She says that I have until Monday to lay out a plan to reimburse her and pay the bills, or she will have her attorney step in and file against me in Contempt of court.
I want to let my attorney know about the latest email, but he has recently told me to dial back our communication or he will be charging me beyond the retainer fee, which I cannot afford. So, I don't want to bother him. He told me only in emergencies or if something relevant happens.
I live paycheck to paycheck, with no savings, and kids to take care of (not from her). The alimony payment has been hefty and has forced some of my own bills to go unpaid, along with other marital debt. So I can't pay anything else even if I wanted to.
She, however, received a medical settlement last year of $150,000, and put down $44,000 to purchase a house this year as we found with the answers she did provide in the Interrogatories. I live in an apartment. She actually seems more well off than I am at the moment.
What is your take on this? She and I were ordered to cooperate and take care of her bills, but it's difficult to do so with her insults and threats, and she hasn't given me much. She accuses me of trying to get out of paying what I owe.

