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My question involves a marriage in the state of: Virginia.

I recently discovered that my wife of 2 1/2 years had an on-going affair with her former boyfriend. I have no other proof than her social media posts (many nudes) and graphic description of their liaisons. I'm not pushing for a fault divorce, this just caused it. We have lived in Virginia for 1 1/2 years in a house I own in my name only. We each have our own car which we pay for. We never joined bank accounts. I paid all of the bills. She is retired from the Navy, I am still active duty. We maintain separate insurance, both health and auto. Her 14 year old son lives with us. She has custody, but he visits his dad on holidays/vacations.

She would like to move back to NC, but after the school year. This means we have to cohabitate as a separate couple. What are the guidelines to make sure our time of separation is not valid? Does the presence of her 14 year old require a one-year separation?

Given the short time of the marriage and the fact that she has her own pension, is it likely that I will be paying alimony or other support?
I have found the following paragraph on at least 6 different websites so I am assuming its verbatim from the statute:

Divorce is the ending of a marriage ordered by a court. In Virginia. No-Fault grounds for divorce: No-Fault: (1) living separate and apart without cohabitation for 1 year; or (2) living separate and apart without cohabitation for 6 months if there are no minor children and the spouses have entered into a separation agreement. [Code of Virginia; Title 20, Section 20-91].
I do not believe that her son would have anything to do with this to give you the six months waiting period instead of one year. He is not your mutual child so you will not be making any kinds of agreements regarding his custody or parenting time. I also think its pretty clear that separation means not living in the same home. Its natural that she is going to want her son to finish the school year, and its really not all that far away. School will be over in 2-3 months so its not tacking on a huge amount of time to your one year.

You cannot force her to move out of the marital home unless you take her to court for a fault divorce and the judge orders her to do that. That odds of accomplishing that before school lets out would be slim to none, so I really think that you are just going to have to be patient.