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Thank you all for the quick replies!

@free9man: Your reply reminded me of another issue: She was still technically married during conception...doubt that counts for anything though...Thank you for your concise reply.
That actually counts for a great deal. Her husband will technically be the legal father until his paternity is disestablished. Yours will not be able to be established unless his is disestablished either before that or part of the same proceeding.

@llworking: She was eating opiods dished out by her father two nights before she left, which was two days after her pregnancy tests...She tried to OD two days before that...
Were the authorities involved in either incident? If not, it didn't happen, legally.

There were very high emotions at the time and she had claimed I was abusive for no reason at all. Lord, how I wish this all was fiction!

Which brings me to try to attempt to defend my character and proclaim that I have gone as far as to beging shopping for a residence in three different states in the possibility that relocation may be benificial. I'm looking at focusing on raising a child on my own if things go a certain way, or as mentioned, trying to mitigate damages in the department of child support, if indeed the wind blows in that direction...

I don't wish to die from stress but, yes it is hard to juggle all of this mentally and emotionally as I haven't much of a support group handy.

That said, back to the meat of the issue, I think I need to clarify that I acknowledge that I currently have zero rights. Kinda figured that, and I think she could be banking on that as well. So, my current goal is to be ready to provide any and as much information needed at the moment needed: Getting an attorney chosen, perhaps primed, if you will, because I understand that I cannot possibly be rushed at a moments notice to hire, inform, and execute any offense or defense on the same day.

How can I even know if she gives birth? I can't but, I would like to be ready for that day...Perhaps an outline of the actual process and/or procedure? Certain actions that can take now to be a better father, especially-crucially even in the eyes of whomever will be making determinations like judges, cps, ect...

Again, thank you all for your insights and your concise answers...
You REALLY need to calm down until or unless there is an actually baby born. All of this "angst" is going to do you no good at all.