Like I already stated, yes, once upon a time, when I was single and before my daughter was born, I hung out in such places. I was a regular customer of a particular dancer. I paid her to do a job, and to be honest, we had a good thing going. There was a bit of a disagreement there at the end. She thought that I owed it to her to contact her if I wasn't going to be able be there on a particular weekend, and I disagreed. It wasn't long after that I could no longer come to the club where she worked. Now, this is me speculating here, I think that her anger towards me stems from the fact that I stopped coming there. The simple truth is, me no longer coming there had ZERO to do with her. Fast forward to four years later. That is when I see her at that restaurant working. I said NOTHING to her. Me eating there had NOTHING to do with her. It was a place where I had eaten before. I had NO idea that she was working there. Her version was that I had prior knowledge that she worked there, and had come there simply to screw with her. The thing is, I was sitting there eating! I had already been served by a waiter. She didn't even have my table. Yet, she stopped working and went home right then and there, despite her manager reassuring her that there would be no problems. She literally could not be in the same building as me. So, basically, this girl was mad at me for not contacting her when I wasn't going to be at one place, then she was mad at me for showing up at another. Three years later, I ran into her again when I went to a store in a big shopping center to go and pick my my daughter's ballet costume. She approached me. She even said as much. She says that she only approached me to see if that was me to see if she needed to go the other way. My question was why didn't she just go the other way? Why did she need to get verification that that was me? She sure didn't look "terrified" and "in mortal fear" when she was standing there looking at me with a blank expression. So, two chance meetings over a seven year period somehow resulted in her getting a restraining order against me.
Believe it or not, this is very typical of ex-strippers. Not all of them are like this. But, a lot of them are. A lot of them are paranoid. A lot of them miss the life and the attention they used to get. A lot of them will claim that they are being stalked by their former customers. Especially their former regular customers. Again, not all of them are like that. Perhaps the one of whom I was once a customer had something bad happen to her. Having been in that business seems to have done a number on her. I hate that for her. Personally, I wish her nothing but the best in her life after dancing. I just wish she wouldn't drag my name through the mud. I am not the person I was years ago. I have a daughter now. If this is going to show up in a background check, then it is worth whatever money I need to spend to have it vacated. I really am not interested in having her charged with anything. I would just like for the RO to be nixed, if it is possible.

