Domestic Battery, Destruction of Property

Ok, so my boyfriend and I of a year and ahalf broke up last week on a wednesday. WE have always been on and off, Always remained friends, never a problem. This time around we agreed this was the last and final time we would do this. Through out our relationship he never raised a hand to me, or hurt me in anyway, or raised his voice ect.
He has never been in trouble with the law. We are both 18. He agreed to give me back everything i made for him because i put alot of effort into it, and everything that was mine at his house.

This time when i went to get it something changed and He wouldnt give it to me, he put his stuff the back seat of his car when i went to grab it he pushed me back to stop me, i tired a second time and he did the same thing. He then told me i might want to get out of the car and i said no i want my things. And he backed out of the parking lot, well i got out of the car. Someone in my building seen this happening and called the police.
I sent him a msg stating if he ever touched me or talked to me again i would call the cops. but they were already on the way. He was threating me he was going to burn the items he had.

When the police arrived he sent me a picture of everything on fire, the police took my phone for evidence.
No matter how much i explain to friends and family I wasnt the one that charged him its not helping they dont believe it.
What i want to know is what can i do to help him. I wasnt the one that charged him, I dont want him to be charged, or go to jail over this. It was a one time thing that will never happen because we wont be friends after this.

I haven't sleep, in 4 day, i cant eat, the only thing i can do is cry. Please help me, help him.

His pushing you was witnessed and reported to police, who have a duty to respond to any potential crime reported. Crimes are considered to be committed against ALL members of society, not just the victim, so it is legally irrelevent that you don't want him to potentially face consequences for his alleged actions. The state is the one who brings charge/ He made the choice to DO those actions, so now he gets to face the music. He could have helped himself by not putting his hands on you, to the extent that it alarmed someone else who was in fear for your safety, AND, by not being stupid enough to commit arson and then provide EVIDENCE of it. That bell cannot be unrung now. What can you do to help him? Short of writing some big checks and paying for the best criminal defense attorney in town, really nothing. Worry about doing what you can do to help YOU to move on.