My Boyfriend is a Felon - How Can This Affect Custody in My Divorce

Cohabitation has nothing to do with whether one parent is better than the other, or setting a better example. The fact is, as a woman, you will ultimately find a mate to care for you and your chldren, and likely cohabitate before gettng married, if you marry at all. That being said, how would a man having a steady girlfriend living with him look bad for him? It doesn't because soon that will be you.
When my divorce was granted, I had a MUCH younger boyfriend living with me and was actually worried his age would affect my outcome, but alas, it did not, and neither did my ex's obnoxious live in girlfriend mouthing off to the judge on his behalf.

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The divorce has just started. I dumped my BF .. who needless to say is pretty upset over the why... But I can't take any chances. As far as sole custody I know that is impossible to get. I just want the kids majority where my soon to be ex would get them on weekends.

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That is for the best, honestly. I dated someone for a minute before I found out he had a DUI. Dumped him immediately, and he was a nice guy. Yiu never know what your ex may use against you in court to be vengeful, and my attorney advised that must I be in a relationship with someone, their record should be CLEAN.

I am guessing by the misspelings that the 'deaf' poster is russian and may not understand clearly what we are saying. Just guessing though, based on how she appears to be 'pronouncing' certan words. Either way, English can't be her first language.

The reason that there is such a disagreement about cohabitation is that, believe it or not, there are still judicial districts which firmly believe that it is not good for children to be around cohabitating adults; the relationships are perceived to be too unstable. The kids are already trying to cope with the seperation of their parents. Throwing another adult in the mix - whom the kids could potentially attach to - and then adding the increased likelihood that the boyfriend/girlfriend will leave (rebound relationships rarely work), is really frowned upon by many conservative judges.

For example, when my ex filed for a change of custody immediately after he found that I was engaged, and my now husband was going to move in, my lawyer told me that my best defense was to get a courthouse and do a civil marriage before the custody hearing. He explained that the particular judge for my case does not like cohabitating couples. My lawyer actually implied that if I didn't get married, I could lose custody of my kids, despite the fact my ex has a child abuse conviction against one of our children!

I know we strive for a legal system wherein Justice is blind, but no where in that motto did we, as a society, mention anything about our judges. They can and do have their opinions and beliefs, and occasionally, those views are impressed upon others through their rulings. Right or wrong, it can happen, especially if the judge's constituents are supportive of those views.

I can see your point but my husband was a rebound after a 2 year relationship and I was his rebound after the ups and downs with bio mom for 4 years.

We co-habitated for 4 years before we got married. We didn't get married until 1 year after bio mom came back into the picture. She tried to pin the g/f thing against him, but the judge didn't care, never mentioned it in court....

I think it's more of a judges' biases rather than the courts. There are a lot of laws out there that are ridiculous that aren't really followed.