Interesting Observation - Where Are the Fathers

Just noticing that when a husband or boyfriend has child support or paternity issues their wives or girlfriends are writing in on their behalf. Would like to know why the guys are not trying to find out what they need to do, or why the women in their lives want to help them through these situations. Just an interesting observation.

I suspect that it often works like this: Dad is paying his support or, after lapsing a bit, is now paying his support plus an additional payment toward arrearages, month after month. Dad enters new relationship that grows into a marriage. His wife, getting a big picture view of the household finances, wonders how he might reduce his support obligation and posts here.

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Quoting Mr. Knowitall

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I suspect that it often works like this: Dad is paying his support or, after lapsing a bit, is now paying his support plus an additional payment toward arrearages, month after month. Dad enters new relationship that grows into a marriage. His wife, getting a big picture view of the household finances, wonders how he might reduce his support obligation and posts here.

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I suspect you're right. From sitting in a family courtroom day after day, you have no idea how disgusted we are from looking at modification papers often times drafted by the new wife or girlfriend because SHE thinks he's paying too much. Sometimes, these men don't even know what is in these papers, only doing what he needs to do to pacify the newest thing in his bed. But it doesn't stop with the girlfriends and wives, the mothers are just as bad (if not worse).

Much less often do you see it the other way around where the new man has dragged his new wife/girlfriend into court to do battle with the ex.

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Quoting CourtClerk

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I suspect you're right. From sitting in a family courtroom day after day, you have no idea how disgusted we are from looking at modification papers often times drafted by the new wife or girlfriend because SHE thinks he's paying too much. Sometimes, these men don't even know what is in these papers, only doing what he needs to do to pacify the newest thing in his bed. But it doesn't stop with the girlfriends and wives, the mothers are just as bad (if not worse).

Much less often do you see it the other way around where the new man has dragged his new wife/girlfriend into court to do battle with the ex.

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HEY! I was wonderin what happened to you!

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Quoting blueeagle

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HEY! I was wonderin what happened to you!

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You know, I'm here and then I'm not. You missed me, huh? You still owe me that date and bottle of moonshine.

What about the wives that write in on behalf of their husbands that are being sued for paternity and child support? Hello... he cheated on you and now you are trying to get him off the hook by doing all of this legal legwork. The facts are that he most likely lied to the wife, the other woman and anyone else along the way. This really has to be his problem to solve.

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Quoting CourtClerk

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You know, I'm here and then I'm not. You missed me, huh? You still owe me that date and bottle of moonshine.

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I'm ready when you are, baby!

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Quoting CourtClerk

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the mothers are just as bad (if not worse).

Much less often do you see it the other way around where the new man has dragged his new wife/girlfriend into court to do battle with the ex.

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At first, I was half thinking you're making this up, at least with the grown adult type guys. But then I thought of how many times I've had students' (college students) parents come in wanting to talk to me about how their precious little darlings deserve some special consideration.

So, yeah. Sad. There should be some kind of cartoon you can innocuously in plain sight put on a wall for them to read.

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Quoting ashman165

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There should be some kind of cartoon you can innocuously in plain sight put on a wall for them to read.

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Actually, there is a little sign on my desk when you approach and it says, "if your name does not appear on this case, I don't not need to speak to you. Please have a seat in the audience."

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Quoting CourtClerk

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Actually, there is a little sign on my desk when you approach and it says, "if your name does not appear on this case, I don't not need to speak to you. Please have a seat in the audience."

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What if i walked up with a bottle of moonshine, darlin? Would ya see the need to speak with me?

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Quoting blueeagle

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What if i walked up with a bottle of moonshine, darlin? Would ya see the need to speak with me?

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I don't know about the clerk. But my wifey been kinda cold lately. Just kidding, still trying to figure out this quote thing.

I think I got it!

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Quoting JOSHUAACE2

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I don't know about the clerk. But my wifey been kinda cold lately. Just kidding, still trying to figure out this quote thing.

I think I got it!

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You got it, my friend! Praise God! Give me your money! Wouldn't I make a great preacher? :D

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Quoting JOSHUAACE2

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I don't know about the clerk. But my wifey been kinda cold lately.

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Is your wifey hot? Send her over here! Just kidding. My girlfriend isn't into 3 ways. Already asked her...

Twenty years ago she was SMOKING, Still pretty damn hot. She's 39, Been telling her for 20 years when she turns 40 I'm trading her in for two twenty's.

Roger

Oh yeah, Checks in the mail.

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Quoting JOSHUAACE2

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Twenty years ago she was SMOKING, Still pretty damn hot. She's 39, Been telling her for 20 years when she turns 40 I'm trading her in for two twenty's.

Roger

Oh yeah, Checks in the mail.

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So, I'm dying to know: is she still a smoker? Or did she give up smoking? =P

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Quoting JOSHUAACE2

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Twenty years ago she was SMOKING, Still pretty damn hot. She's 39, Been telling her for 20 years when she turns 40 I'm trading her in for two twenty's.

Roger

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Oh cool! She's the same age as Ashman's boyfriend... after you transpose the digits!

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Oh yeah, Checks in the mail.

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God bless you!

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Quoting blueeagle

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Oh cool! She's the same age as Ashman's boyfriend... after you transpose the digits!
God bless you!

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Well, the term isn't "boy"friend for no reason. Actually, I'm happily single and I aim to remain that way.

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Quoting ashman165

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Well, the term isn't "boy"friend for no reason. Actually, I'm happily single and I aim to remain that way.

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I can fix you up with my cousin! He's rich!

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Quoting blueeagle

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I can fix you up with my cousin! He's rich!

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Oh boy. Just what I need: another rich person in my life. Thank you, no.

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Quoting ashman165

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Oh boy. Just what I need: another rich person in my life. Thank you, no.

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He might even be willin' to let you be the "man" in the relationship! HA!

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Quoting blueeagle

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He might even be willin' to let you be the "man" in the relationship! HA!

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Oh, that's never in question. =P Despite the rumors certain people here would prefer to promulgate, the majority of gay people you meet you wouldn't automatically know they're gay. Of course, there are sometimes clues. Consider, for example, if I say, "This is Ricky; he's the guy I'm currently banging." That might inform the savvy among people that there's a possibility I'm gay. Or that Ricky is. Some will think, of course, that one of us isn't gay. Or neither. But these people are, simply put, retarded.

What about that little wrist thing? You know, the thing that looks like ya'll got a broken wrist?

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Quoting ashman165

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So, I'm dying to know: is she still a smoker? Or did she give up smoking? =P

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You must have misunderstood. Wifey would never inhale anything that contained carcinogens. As to her prowess as a smoker........

Roger

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Quoting ashman165

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Well, the term isn't "boy"friend for no reason. Actually, I'm happily single and I aim to remain that way.

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Missed this one Ashman, when you transpose the digits you get "Geriatric friend"

Does the poor ole bastard even know what you're doing to him at this point?

Roger

Two lovers (Ashman and Roger) fell on hard times and decided to rob a bank together.

Ashman plans the robbery and goes over the plan with the second lover in great detail.

The robbery begins.

Ashman drives up in front of the bank, stops the car and says to the other lover, "I want to make absolutely sure you understand the plan. You are supposed to be in and out of the bank in no more than three minutes with the cash. Do you understand the plan?"

"Perfectly," he said.

He goes in the bank while the other waits in the getaway car.

One minute passes, two minutes pass...seven minutes pass - and the first lover is really stressing out.

Finally, the bank doors burst open and out he comes. He's got a safe wrapped up in rope and is dragging it to the car.

About the time he gets the safe in the trunk of the car, the bank doors burst open again with the security guard coming out.

The guard's pants and underwear are down around his ankles while he is firing his weapon.

As the guys are getting away, Ashman says "I thought you understood the plan!"

Roger said, "I did! I did exactly what you said!"

"No, you idiot," he replied. "You got it all mixed up. I said tie up the GUARD and blow the SAFE!"

Damn, now that's funny.

This is the funniest thing you've ever said. And it isn't even originally yours!

Poor guard never had a chance, but I'm curious as to how he still had any energy left.

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Quoting ashman165

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This is the funniest thing you've ever said. And it isn't even originally yours!

Poor guard never had a chance, but I'm curious as to how he still had any energy left.

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Check out my jokes in the secret forum.

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Quoting ashman165

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This is the funniest thing you've ever said. And it isn't even originally yours!

Poor guard never had a chance, but I'm curious as to how he still had any energy left.

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'Cause he never even fired his "weapon" till he got outside. Left him on the verge.

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Quoting CourtClerk

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Actually, there is a little sign on my desk when you approach and it says, "if your name does not appear on this case, I don't not need to speak to you. Please have a seat in the audience."

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At times I'm soooo glad that I'm not an attorney or in your shoes. The countless threads here (and elsewhere) that state "I told him that he's not paying that much. He has a new family to support and they're/she's not part of it - I am!!!"

The family judges, attorneys, clerks, etc have the patience of a saint. I'd lose it!