Support for a paternity fraud victim

I agree with you and thank you for what you are doing. A lot of people think that you should want to pay for that child since she was born to your wife. How could you not love her, they ask. I believe it should be a choice wheather you want to pay for her or not. Some people don't share a child father bond. Some fathers don't even get to see the child they are paying support to. My husbands "daughter" which is 13 just cussed me out last week but we have to keep paying. And they say how can we turn our backs on her, hmm. She's her mother made over, that's how. But we keep pretending to not know a thing. Isn't life grand! I guess I can't complain since I'm not doing anything to change the law. Thanks for trying yourself.

To be quite honest....There was a bond with the child. Since the DNA test , visitation was removed....not by my choice. Sadly the child still thinks I'm her father. I can only assume she thinks I abandoned her.I did not.

It is a sad reality, but ultimately I am fighting for her; though it may not seem like it. Thank you for your kind words of support!

I don't understand why would visitation be removed and you still have to pay child support for her? Was that the mothers choice or the judge? Especially if there was a bond.

Sour grapes on the mothers part. It wasn't court ordered, though if I persue the visitation issue it would confuse an already difficult case.

She's upset that I had a DNA test , which proved what she was trying desperately to hide.

I couldn't imagine that she's be mad at herself for the lie that she has told you, the child and the court system. Shame on you for finding out the truth, huh? :roll:

If you don't pursue parenting time, you have nobody to blame but yourself for the fact that you aren't getting parenting time. I suspect that the real reason you aren't pursuing parenting time is that you fear it will interfere with your desire to avoid paternity.

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Quoting Mr. Knowitall

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If you don't pursue parenting time, you have nobody to blame but yourself for the fact that you aren't getting parenting time. I suspect that the real reason you aren't pursuing parenting time is that you fear it will interfere with your desire to avoid paternity.

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Interesting take on it, though far from the truth. There are tons of issues to iron out in court. In fact, I have three active petitions in family court......one is a violation of visitation; if you must know.

This whole issue sounds bad; we have to remember, I didn't initiate this by going outside the marriage. All I can do is fight it.

Mr. Knowitall. Do you think he should pay for a child that isn't his or should the childs bio father pay for her...just curious. If you have to need, you could pay for my husband "daughter" that his ex had...just kidding :lol:

He seems to want it both ways - to have visitation rights, but no obligation to pay support. Given a choice, he seems to favor the money over the child.

In the U.K. last year the results of a study on certain genetic abnormalities, based upon the testing of parents and their newborn babies, revealed a 20% nonpaternity rate - among married couples. The study did not reveal nonpaternity to the parents, but it does highlight a significant problem.

Apparently non-paternity wasn't an issue until paternity-fraud-victim decided to make it an issue, and decided to pursue a DNA test on his own initiative. The motive again seems financial, as that was clearly not something done for the benefit of the child.

If paternity-fraud-victim wants to put his pocketbook before his relationship with a child he had previously treated as his own, or makes his love contingent on DNA test results, that's his business. But no, don't ask me to approve.

I think she made it an issue when she stopped letting him see the child. What do you think she is looking for...a father for her child, no. No money, no child. She's the one that made the decision, not him.