Son Doesn't Want To Go Back After Visitation

My question involves a child custody case from the State of: California

I reside in Texas and my son came to visit me from California, he is 15 1/2 and a very centered young man. We have talked for about a year about him living with me. Well he decided to stay and I filed a order modification for a move away order, at the hearing today the judge refused to modify the order. I told my son that he will have to go back tommorow for his scheduled flight and he said that he was not and told me that his mother routinely strikes him during arguments. My son wrote a declaration reflecting this statement and I sent it to my attorney today. I know the timing on this is skeptical, but I know he is telling the truth because as with me she also used to hit me in the head and slap my face during aruguments.

I never did anything or call the law because of my profession at the time, so I put up with the abuse until I could no longer stand it and left.

Court scheduled a mediation in California and my son told me that he is not going back. I can not leave him in Texas without a legal guardian and go alone, if I dont go then I will be in contempt and probably have a warrant issued for me in California. So Either way I am screwed. One of the thoughts I had was to get him his own attorney for his best interest.

I spoke to a Texas Lawyer today and he told me that there was nothing that could be done from here, I just find it hard to believe that nothing can be done and I am supposed to return my son into an abusive enviornment.

Any suggestions or advice is appreciated.

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Quoting SAG

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never did anything or call the law because of my profession at the time, so I put up with the abuse until I could no longer stand it and left.

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,,,, and left your SON behind:confused::confused::confused:

You need to take your son to the airport and check him in for that flight.
If his mom beats him then he should immediately call 911, CPS or report the incident at school.

I understand what you are saying, what can I say her attorney locked everything up so fast I did not have access to anything. With her families money and me almost living under a bridge because of the divorce I could barely feed myself. Hard times pounced on me. Now the tide has turned. As most of you know if you have money the justice system will work for you and so will attorneys. It took me 4 years to get back on my feet and I thought about my son everyday. The reality is at the time he was better off with her than me. Put yourself in his shoes and think about calling the authorities on your mother, easier said than done. So your advice is to put him into a wrist lock and put him on the plane? Really Wow..

Wrist locks? ummm - no. But you NEED to be the adult and explain to your child that you are not going to violate a court order.

Tell your son that if he wants you to prevail in a change of custody, he has to help you demonstrate that you are fully compliant with the court's orders and respect the court's rulings. Tell him if he wants the court to believe you're playing games, and to spend the rest of his teen years living with mom, his choices are likely to lead to that outcome.

You won't be able to do much to advance the situation from behind bars, so concentrate first on NOT getting yourself there. Get the boy on the plane. And yes, of course the timing is suspicious. No court is going to give credibility to tales of long term ongoing abuse if there's never been a SINGLE report to child services, a single 911 call....nothing to indicate or document even a hint that SOMETHING is amiss. At 15, he's old enough to use the phone - tell him to USE it.