In Foster Care and Pregnant

No one is blaming her for being in foster care. Where did you get that?

SOMEONE needs to tell her to keep her legs shut. She evidently doesn't know enough to do it on her own.

I got it from you...
http://www.expertlaw.com/forums/showthread.php?t=76592

"you are in the foster system for a reason (whether it's because of something you did or because of your family situation, there is a reason)"

Kids are not put into foster care because of something they did - it is their parent's fault. Now we have a pregnant teenager whose baby will probably repeat the cycle. We should be encouraging her to do the right thing. I only hope she would be treated a little more gently than a thirty year old who is trying not to pay child support for a one nite stand.

There are two ways to tell someone to go to hell. One way will piss them off and the other way will have them looking forward to the trip :D

I'm sorry, but I simply do not agree that there is NO possibility that a child is in foster care for any reason except for something their parents did. I know of habitual runaways, for example, that have ended up in the foster care system for one reason or another.

And I did not say that to THIS poster.

If you want to make your responses all gooey and sweet, feel free. But the last time I looked, I still had the right to respond in the manner I felt would be most effective.

They don't have to like me for it.

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I got it from you...
http://www.expertlaw.com/forums/showthread.php?t=76592

"you are in the foster system for a reason (whether it's because of something you did or because of your family situation, there is a reason)"

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It happens to also be a true statement. What, are we prohibited from telling the truth nowadays if it's not fluff and bunnies?

I guess the kids who either publically or privately thanked me for telling it to them like it is didn't know what they were talking about, huh?

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Quoting cbg

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She should have thought of this BEFORE she spread her legs.

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Could you be more rude? I mean, really, was that necessary? Does it make you feel better about yourself?

Oh, I could be a lot more rude than that if I tried.

Hello I am a pragnant 16 year old too and i am 31 weeks pragnant. i was reading through this article and just wanted to share some info with you. Well i was told by my social worker that you did not really need to run away. she can leave and refuse foster care placement anytime. She just needs to tell where she is going and a phone number she will be at. the police will not go after her. the social worker is not going to report her as a run away as long as she tells where she is. This will not make her a run away.....SHE IS JUST REFUSING FOSTER CARE PLACEMENT. if she can last at least 6 months with out receiving social services she can start to apply to get emancipated. this is only if she is 16.

I am not saying that is the best thing for her.
But to this good news is a big defect. the trouble is when the baby comes. I don't know if when the baby is born if the baby will go into care or she can keep it her. that is the answer i am trying to find out. What i do know is if she stays in foster care her baby will be under foster care custody too. this means that once she turns 18. she may not be able to take her baby with her. even if she is 18. she will take the baby when the foster care system saids so.this can be till she is 20 or 30 or never. need to be careful about her decisions is just not her is all about the baby. you sont want the baby to be in one home to another one. think think think.......all this is true hosestly i am in foster care too with the same situation. so i have not refuse placement beacause i dont know if my baby will be taken away after she is born.

i have read some pretty rood things on here. being 16 and pragnant is not the end of the world or the worse thing. i say it for experience, i am pragnant too. i happy and love my babys father. that way i understand how she feels and i hope that she does what her heart tells her to. what make her and her baby happy. life isn't about what you got but what you make out of what you got. love is the best thing. instead of fighting so much you should support her talk to her if you really want her to have the best life, because the best life comes when you are happy... not with out freedom in a miserable place.

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Quoting pollito

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Hello I am a pragnant 16 year old too and i am 31 weeks pragnant. i was reading through this article and just wanted to share some info with you. Well i was told by my social worker that you did not really need to run away. she can leave and refuse foster care placement anytime. She just needs to tell where she is going and a phone number she will be at. the police will not go after her. the social worker is not going to report her as a run away as long as she tells where she is. This will not make her a run away.....SHE IS JUST REFUSING FOSTER CARE PLACEMENT. if she can last at least 6 months with out receiving social services she can start to apply to get emancipated. this is only if she is 16.

I am not saying that is the best thing for her.
But to this good news is a big defect. the trouble is when the baby comes. I don't know if when the baby is born if the baby will go into care or she can keep it her. that is the answer i am trying to find out. What i do know is if she stays in foster care her baby will be under foster care custody too. this means that once she turns 18. she may not be able to take her baby with her. even if she is 18. she will take the baby when the foster care system saids so.this can be till she is 20 or 30 or never. need to be careful about her decisions is just not her is all about the baby. you sont want the baby to be in one home to another one. think think think.......all this is true hosestly i am in foster care too with the same situation. so i have not refuse placement beacause i dont know if my baby will be taken away after she is born.

i have read some pretty rood things on here. being 16 and pragnant is not the end of the world or the worse thing. i say it for experience, i am pragnant too. i happy and love my babys father. that way i understand how she feels and i hope that she does what her heart tells her to. what make her and her baby happy. life isn't about what you got but what you make out of what you got. love is the best thing. instead of fighting so much you should support her talk to her if you really want her to have the best life, because the best life comes when you are happy... not with out freedom in a miserable place.

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The only thing sadder than being 16 and pregnant is being 16, pregnant, illiterate, unable to communicate effectively at the very least in the written form and unable to support the child you are bringing into this world without taxpayer assistance.

"pragnant" and "rood" are not the words you were looking for sweetheart. Leave the baby in foster care so that it has the chance to be raised by adults who are capable of supporting it and giving it the education that it needs to be able to make it in this world. Spend the rest of your time educating yourself instead of making babies.

Please site a legal source that allows for a child to refuse to be placed in foster care.
I think this is a HUGE mistake.
I also want to remind you that if your child is adopted they are not in the foster care system and will not be bounced from house to house.