Marrying or Emancipating my Abused Boyfriend
My question involves emancipation laws for the State of: Georgia
Alright, before I get any of those 'You're too young, don't through your life away!' responses, please read the entire message.
I am 17 years old, I will be 18 in September. I am currently dating a guy who is being both physically and mentally abused by both of his parents (he is only 16 but will be 17 in August.)
His mother will not allow him to come see me because my mother has confronted her about the abuse, and his father no longer hits hard enough to leave bruises (He stopped when he and I started dating, I know because I saw the last of the bruises almost two years ago when we first stated dating, I asked him what happened and he told me it was nothing, so I dropped it; after all this was like our third week of going out and I didn't want to bug him; about a month later he told me what they were and swore to me not to tell anyone else, so I promised. I also made it clear that the second we could figure something out to stop the problem I was going to tell, and he agreed)
At this point I have to say that telling the cops/school/whatever DOES NOT do anything to help the situation. The only thing they do is go to the home while you are at school, ask your parents about it, and disappear. His father has a VERY EXTREME temper, and I do not want to find out what would happen if something like that did happen and he wasn't being kept safe somewhere else. (I know this because I went through the same exact same thing with my father, only he was sexually abusive and I was much younger. I know longer have contact with him, and my mother was on my side. His mother is not on his side even the slightest)
Now my parents know about the situation, the complete and entire situation (everything from the mental abusive both of his parents give him, things such as screaming at him that he is worthless and will never amount to anything; I've not only heard them screaming at him things like this while I was at his home, but also over the phone while talking to him, to the physical abuse his father gives him, just Wednesday night his father hit him multiple times while driving home from church just because he failed the drivers test; just because his front wheel went over the yellow line of the parking space once and when he asked his father when they could look at the course so he could practice it for the next test, his father started screaming at him and when he tried to respond to his father's screaming questions his father begin to hit him, most of this I heard over the phone because I had called him to see where he was at, and he answered and forgot to hang up (he didn't say hello once and the phone didn't die until his father hit him hard enough to knock it out of his lap) )
So anyway, my parents know about all of this and have told me that they would be more than supportive if he and I decided to get married or even if he just wanted to move in. However his parents would never let him move in with us, and my parents and I are at a loss at how to help him.
My mother moved out at 16 because her parents helped her with all of the legal things involved, she married at 17 because her parents signed the papers for her (She would sign the papers for me, but isn't legally allowed to sign them for him, and his parents would never agree to that)
He is going to start looking for a job this weekend, but if he cannot find one and he absolutely has to have one my parents know people who would hire him if it was an emergency.
So yeah, basically my question is how do we help him without letting the police handle it their way, because their way NEVER works.
(please don't respond with, sorry, there is no other way except to let the police know because I've been through it, and all they do is make it worse; they were even trying to force my mother to stop talking to me and trying to force her to give me back to my abusive father even though they knew he was sexually abusing me. See, I told my mother on the day I had to go see him, because the time before he did something that really made me not want to go back, I begged my mother not to force me to go and so she got the police involved, she almost got arrested for holding me away from him; in fact she would have been if he didn't finally give up and say she could have me until all of this was settled, I guess he thought that made him look like an innocent father or something, I don't really know I was only 10)
so yeah...anything besides 'you can't do anything' and 'tell the police' would be welcome...
Thank you
Re: Emancipation/Marriage/Abuse
That is one heck of a long block of text to say, "I didn't read the sticky at the top of the forum as the forum rules demanded."
Read it.
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I did read it, it says no, but the fact that I've been through it and his father would kill him if he wasn't in a safe spot first makes me dare to question the authority (sue me XD)
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Diana2009
I did read it, it says no, but the fact that I've been through it and his father would kill him if he wasn't in a safe spot first makes me dare to question the authority (sue me XD)
Then it said no.
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Then this forum is pointless.
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Then this forum is pointless.
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No... but you don't want any answer that doesn't end with "and then your boyfriend can live with you and play house forever."
And any legal answer won't end that way.
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If a child is being abused, report the abuse. 1-800-4-A-CHILD.
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If a child is being abused, report the abuse. 1-800-4-A-CHILD.
MK, she said NOT to respond with that...
Sheesh....;)
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anything besides 'you can't do anything' and 'tell the police' would be welcome
This is not the Only Tell Me What I Want To Hear forum. This is a legal information forum, and your legal options are "You can't do anything, you have no standing" and "Call the police and/or CPS".
And stay in school, for Dog's sake, because "No"? Means "No", and you need someone to explain to you that demanding the answer be changed won't change it.
Re: Marrying or Emancipating my Abused Boyfriend
I've got news for you, sweetiecakes. This forum is not for telling you why the law does not apply to you. That's because the law does apply to you. All the what-ifs and but-onlys and I-don't-want-that-to-be-the-answer doesn't change the fact that it is.
The answer is not emancipation. The answer is not getting married while underage. The answer is call CPS. The answer is always going to be call CPS no matter how many temper tantrums you throw.