My question involves a child custody case from the State of: CT
Our visitation is very loose with my exhusband getting a 7 hour visit per week, 2 overnights (24hours), and the weeks in which he doesn't get an overnight he can have a short visit. The court papers just state with "notice". It doesn't state what notice is. The visits are not on set days due to his work schedule changing each week.
He does however know his schedule for the rest of the year! Is it wrong to ask him to give a weeks notice for the seven hour and overnight visits? These visits affect things such as daycare, babysitters, my work schedule, scheduling her pick ups etc... It is hard for me to schedule our life not knowing. His short visit doesn't affect me as much as it's usually while I am at work and daughter would be at daycare. So, for that I have asked for at least 24 hour notice. He is famous for giving very little notice for all visits (less than 24 hours).
It also should be noted, that he does not take what he is supposed to. He has his 7 hour visit down to 3.5-4 hours, his overnight down down to 16 hours and is sometimes skipping the short ones. So you never know and I get sick of waiting and then he doesn't schedule and I could have made plans etc...
So, my question is "Is requiring a weeks notice for longer visits fair?" Of course if he wants to schedule others or something comes up once in a while and he can't thats one thing. I do not tell him no unless its something important already scheduled, but that is not helping as he is becoming more and more uninvlolved.
If he continues to not take his allowed visits, can I have this modified to reflect what he actually takes?
Thanks