Child Molestation

My question involves criminal law for the state of: south carolina

Yes, i've been dating this girl for over a year, she has 2 kids, a 6 year old and a 4 year old. her ex husband which is the father of the 4 year old has been pulling all kinds of stuff to try to get custody of the 4 year old completey. He has pulled a stunt and got her kids taken away, her kids were returned after we dated for about 6 months, they did an investigation on me so to speak and she got her two kids back. We suspected her father was molesting her because every time she would come back from her dads, she would act so different, she would have lego blocks in her underware, and other stuff like tryin to touch me like that.... This last time, she went to go potty, and she said it hurt her to go pee, my fiance looked at her and saw it was a little red then she plainly said "my daddy put a stick in my bottom and my butt" we asked her why and she said "because i had spiders in me" we've been taking her to a theropist that deals with kids and possible sexual molestation without telling him and she finally said it today that "my daddy stuck a stick in my bottom and butt" The theropist is going to be filing a report to turn into my local county office.

Now, she has never said that i've did anything. She has occasionally called me daddy but not on a regular basis she has her own nickname for me and has never said my nickname has done this and that.

Our concern is that he's going to try to reverse this and put it on me because he honestly doesnt like me.

What is going to happen in the next few weeks and whats the chances of it actually being turned on me? What should i start doing? Im honestly not worried because my name has never been mentioned of doing this. only him. Should i be real concerned? I mean i dont even get them dressed nor go in the bathroom with them i try not to be by myself with them just for this simple reason.

He can try to put it on you, but the therapist has specific training on exactly how to interview a possible sexual abuse victim in order to best ascertain the identity of the suspect. Unless he's taken her to an expert of his own who will offer different testimony, the therapists's report and opinion is going to hold much more water than whatever finger pointing he comes up with.

ok well im positive that he's not taking her to another theropist because 1, she would bring up a new name whenever she went to her dads and 2, he gets her every other weekend from friday evening til sunday morning, well he's not getting her like that anymore. court papers say every other weekend visitations and if im correct that could mean if she wanted her kid to see him for 1 hour at mc donalds every other weekend, thats consider weekend visitations right?

It would depend on the actual exact language of the order, considered in light of whatever history such visitations have had in the past. If he had previously been given Friday all through Sunday, and you suddenly cut him to an hour each day, you give him ammunition to go before the court and claim that you are interfering with custody. Remember that no matter what your reasons (even if they are good ones in your mind), that YOU have no legal authority to alter what the court has ordered. Suddenly deciding to apply your own personal interpretation to a standing order can really bite you and actually have the effect of getting him MORE time. If you want to change the status quo, get back before the judge and do it the RIGHT way.

This sounds an awful like like vicious games playing, a revenge act where your pumping the child full of the nastiest ideas in order to get back at her father for initiating the protective services involvement that led to his daughter's being temporarily removed from your wife's care. Now you're giddy that you can prevent him from getting her to a therapist of his own choice, and are calculating how you could get away with violating the visitation order?

I hope there's no truth to your claim, because you seem to be choosing the worst possible course here in relation to the child. I've seen parents lose custody after engaging in this type of act, with the judge convinced that the only basis for the sex abuse allegation being the accusing parent's desire to win a custody case or punish the accused parent.

Especially if a legal stranger (that would be you) gets in the way of a custody battle.

Judges really hate it when people try to muck about with parental rights.

you guys arent understand what im saying, im not getting in the way, she wants to limit his visitations to 1 hour every other weekend and the papers does not state that her daughter has to go stay the night with him..it just says every other weekend visitations. you would understand better if you know the whole sitiuation about him.

I know that I don't know the whole situation - but I'm telling you that, whatever the situation and whatever the merit of your wife's concerns, she's handling this in a way that could blow up in her face. You can heed that or ignore it.

ok well the orginal quest was since we havea theropist statement saying what the 4 year old has said, if he tried to turn it around on me, by just finger pointing to our theropist do i have anything to even worry bout, we know that he hasnt taking her to a theropist. also, whats the proceducers and whats to happen in the next few weeks after this theropist files this report?