Father Says He Wants To Know His Son

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Quoting curiousgeorge

I am not in your state and I am not sure if the laws are pretty similar between the two. I do have an opinion about this.

I don't understand why everyone is saying that he can just pop in and out whenever he likes. Two years here, three years there, one week here, seven years later there. Unfortunately, that is NOT a healthly, nor stable relationship for any child. Imagine what that would do to this child emotionally and mentally, especially if he gets attached (which he should've been from the very beginning).

You didn't state what type of custody you had but I would take this court if I were you and try to obtain sole custody of your child and work on a parenting plan (let them know your side and ask for supervised visitation if the court decides to order visitation for him at all) and the court will rule based on what is in the best interest of the child. I would agree that seven years later is a long time to not be a parent to your child and a judge would wonder the same thing.

I don't think visitation would be completely ruled out, however; if he does not follow the rule of the court and just shows up for a visitation here and there, it would NOT look good on his behalf if you were to take him back to court and show how he has not been following the court order.

Good luck and I hope everything works out for the best for your child sake.

Because, currently, the law is written so that it is perfectly legal to demand the rights to be a parent without ever exercising them.