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KDR97
My question involves a child custody case from the State of: CA
I will make this as short as possible. Married, filed for divorce in Feb 08. Paperwork was messed up so he had it redone and is sitting on them right now. Two kids, age 11 and 1. He is military, we lived in housing. I moved back home to parents house, 600 miles away (no choice).
The kids have been in my custody since we left, with his agreement. 11 year old has been in counseling since Aug, 1 year old is not affected, YET. We attend church regularly, 11 year old has a church group every week. 11 year old enjoys his school and mates, and is very active in his schools band. We have a huge support system here, aunts, uncles, grandparents etc, on BOTH sides. Were ex lives, there is none.
Ex has only seen the kids two times in the past 10+ months. I have offered to take the kids down to see him, meet him half way etc. Every time he has a different reason as to why he can not. He does not call the kids very often (once a month is the norm.) but he calls and texts me alot more. 11 year old has own cell phone, so no excuse to NOT call.
Ex has a girlfriend now. Which I am fine with. Ex is trying to force me to meet her though. I have no desire or want to meet her. I am sure she is great, but I do not want to be friends with her, just yet. Since I said I would not meet her, and apparently made the mistake of saying I am willing to "let" my kids meet her, he is now threatening to take them away from me.
Reasons he stated he can take them away:
-I live with my parents, the kids share a room with me but we each have our own bed.
-My brother, his girlfriend and child live here as well.
-In the past my mom has been verbally mean to me. (name calling)
-It is a suspect that my brother smokes marijuana and has had some in the home at one time or another.
-There are guns in the house, in a gun safe, all registared, child locked etc. Dad and brother belong to a hunting club.
-I do not work, but go to school full time.
Reasons why I hope he can not take them from me:
-He was arrested for a sexual assult a few years ago, innocent by a military jury.
-I have threatening emails from him about taking the kids from me.
-I have threatening voicemails from him as well. Example: 3 a.m., you better pick up the phone, you have my kids, do you know what I can do to you, etc.
-He will be deploying soon.
-Lost his security clearance with the military due to bad credit, and other things he will not discuss.
-Even when I offer to pay for a ticket for him, he does not visit his kids.
Does he have a good chance at taking them from me? I do not drink or use drugs. My kids are with me 24/7, no daycare or babysitter. (school is online)