Frustration with the child support system

I don't really have a legal question, just a rant. I've been reading these legal boards for a few months and it always seems to be the same theme. From the NCP's it's how can I pay less and from the CP's it's how can I get more. Some laws change buy yet they only change on paper. In my situation my husband is paying cs on a child that isn't his. The law changed in Ohio but yet judges don't want to hurt or disrupt a childs life so the wronged man is still getting the shaft. How can the mother do this to her child and to her husband( now ex husband). It happens all the time and she can get away with it because the law lets her. It isn't right. I guess I do have a question...Will the law ever change to protect the innocent man?

The laws are written to protect the innocent CHILD. Not the mother or the father. Do some fathers get the short end of the stick here? Yes as do some mothers. No one has ever, and doubtfully will ever, find a way so that EVERYONE is being treated perfectly equal at all times. The best we can hope for is that the ones least capable of protecting themselves are offered the most protection under the law. In the case of family court system, this is the child.

In my case the law is protecting the man that fathered the child. The mother will eventually tell the child that my husband isn't the father. She did in her other situation...after the wronged father paid CS until she was 19 and out of school. The mother is the one that messed up, not my husband and not the child either. It is so frustrating. Thanks for listening to my rant.

The father who has any doubt about his paternity can request DNA testing to confirm paternity. Given that some studies show a nonpaternity rate of 20% for children born within wedlock, it isn't such a bad idea to confirm paternity for children born to unmarried couples before stipulating to paternity.

Beyond that, many fathers feel the opposite way - that is, they don't understand how they can be denied parental rights to a child they have raised and love as their own merely because they were determined by a DNA test not to be the child's biological father.

Exactly. The system needs fixed. It sould be a case by case rather than judge by judge. It seems like it should actually be illegal to make a father pay support when a child isn't his, he never gets to see her because of the distance between them and it should be illegal for a woman to make a man pay support for a child that isn't his. I know, I'm beating a dead horse.

The WOMAN isn't making anyone pay anything. That is for a court to decide.

You are correct but if the Woman would have told my husband that he wasn't the father in the first place then he could have done something about it then. Now it's too late. It wouldn't matter if she did tell the truth now because my husband already claimed her in divorce papers 10 years ago.

I feel the same way. I am a single mother, with 2 children, only one of my children i get child support on, and he is so far behind right now its unreal and they wont do anything about it. But i am engaged, and my fiancee is in jail over not paying child support, he was never married to the woman, and not sure that the child is even his. And the courts refuse to let him out of jail. He went to court on it last week and the court appointed attorney told me he had a small cash bond and he could get out, well since then they have added a No Bond for failure to pay. And the attorney is not help at all, wont even answer the phone calls.

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I feel the same way. I am a single mother, with 2 children, only one of my children i get child support on, and he is so far behind right now its unreal and they wont do anything about it. But i am engaged, and my fiancee is in jail over not paying child support, he was never married to the woman, and not sure that the child is even his. And the courts refuse to let him out of jail. He went to court on it last week and the court appointed attorney told me he had a small cash bond and he could get out, well since then they have added a No Bond for failure to pay. And the attorney is not help at all, wont even answer the phone calls.

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I have never understood how a woman could want to be with a man that does not pay his child support. Especially a mother and even more so, a mother that herself, does not receive the court ordered support for her children.

well its not that I'm really worried about rather or not I get the money, cause I get enough money to make it without it, its just the way that the system works that makes me so mad. And as far as being with someone that does not pay child support, I would not expect a man myself to pay for a child that is not his, and if you dont have the money to pay, it like the old saying you cant squeeze blood from a turnip. I have had hard times in the past and I know the way the economy is now days its hard on people. And when you really love someone you accept that person, regardless of their past.