I have sole custody of my 3 year old daughter as agreed upon by myself and my ex husband. I am currently engaged to be married again and my finance has developed an excellent rapport with my daughter, more so than she has with her own father. She has weekly visitation with her father 2 days every week, and pays $300 a month in support 75% of daycare (sometimes he pays, that is).
Is it possible for me to state in my will, if something happens to me, that my daughter should stay with my fiance and continue the current visitation with her father or would her father automatically get custody?
Is there something that I can do now to ensure that my daughter would stay with my fiance? My ex is an alcoholic and has 3 DUI's and is not a US citizen. I would not want my daughter to be taken to another country to live away from the family that she knows.