Boyfriend Subpoenaed For Paternity After 3 Years, Another Guy Is On Birth Certificate

Ok. I have another off the wall question, concerning this. We have been talking about getting married, and I have wanted to wait till we get our own house, and I finish school. But, what if we got married, before he went to court. Would that make any difference concerning us as a family, and the welfare of our child, inregards to his father's support?

he doesn't go to court until July, so we would have time to get married in the courthouse.

Also, there is no way that we got married then they could use a combined income to base child support, right? Since it is him they are going after, not me......?

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Quoting BroncoGirl

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...she may end up taking him for everything he is worth, and our son comes last. That is just NOT FAIR at all.

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This woman can not take him for all he is worth. Her child (if he is also the child of your boyfriend) is entitled to a certain percentage of the father's pay. It really does not have that much to do with HER - it is for what is in the best interest of the child. Look at it this way - if the father does not financially support the child - who do you think does? The rest of US. That is not fair either.

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Quoting BroncoGirl

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But I am not asking for advice, so that everyone may judge me, so please don't. Why can the court not look at this girl, and realize that she is just money hungry now, she is doing this only for her personal interest (if you all only knew her). Not even her own family can stand her at this point.

And this is the same situation, I am still working my butt of to support us, and here this tramp comes in, not doing anything, not working, get TA from the state, state medical, food stamps, and God knows what else, and she is going to go after my boyfriend, and in worst case scenerio, we will fall two steps back, and have to work even harder to move forward, and she still wont be doing anything.......

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OKAY - but now you are asking us to judge her and not you?? And what about your boyfriend? He CHOSE to have sex with this woman in the first place. Surely some of the blame for the mother not knowing who the father might be rests on his shoulders?

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Quoting BroncoGirl

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I primarily am concerned about the support that my son will be received, when and if he is required to pay child support. I am just so frustrated now, I feel like screaming and punching a wall.

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GOOD! Keep your focus on your son - not the other mom. You have to love him more than you hate her.
If you want to make sure your son continues to be financially supported by his father - file for child support!