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  • 04-29-2007, 07:43 PM
    Kisitu1969
    I'm The Victim Of Marriage Fraud
    I am going through the exact same thing. My husband was working on a research project at a Universtiy here in the US when we met and subsequently was married. In retrospect, I can see that my husband knew everything there was to know about immigration law very early in our relationship. However, I wrote it off because my husband is very intelligent and enjoys research. Now I can see that gaining legal residence in this country was his only mission. During the marriage I also discovered that he and other members of his family defrauded the Swedish government gaining entry by pretending to had abducted and abused by a sex ring. The I-485 is still pending. Is there anything I can do to stop him from staying in this country? We separated a couple of times prior to this final separation a few months ago. I discovered communication with women in foreign coutries but, of course, my husband declared he did not marry me for citizenship. We separated for good in February, just before our 3rd anniversay, he informed me that he cared noting about me or my children, he had what he came here for, had his own plans, and there was nothing I could do about it.
  • 01-28-2008, 04:12 PM
    newlife08
    Re: Marriage Fraud - I'm the victim
    Quote:

    Quoting Kisitu1969
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    I am going through the exact same thing. My husband was working on a research project at a Universtiy here in the US when we met and subsequently was married. In retrospect, I can see that my husband knew everything there was to know about immigration law very early in our relationship. However, I wrote it off because my husband is very intelligent and enjoys research. Now I can see that gaining legal residence in this country was his only mission. During the marriage I also discovered that he and other members of his family defrauded the Swedish government gaining entry by pretending to had abducted and abused by a sex ring. The I-485 is still pending. Is there anything I can do to stop him from staying in this country? We separated a couple of times prior to this final separation a few months ago. I discovered communication with women in foreign coutries but, of course, my husband declared he did not marry me for citizenship. We separated for good in February, just before our 3rd anniversay, he informed me that he cared noting about me or my children, he had what he came here for, had his own plans, and there was nothing I could do about it.

    You need gather all the criminal evidence and sent to USCIS and contact Attorney General's office.
  • 03-04-2008, 10:14 PM
    YKMendes
    Re: Marriage Fraud - I'm The Victim
    I am appalled at the fact that there doesn't seem to be much to protect us from these kind of people. I too am a victim of this "fraud". I have been married 3 1/2 years. He only received his residency last August, and since he has completely changed. We as far as I believed we planning a trip to his homeland for this month, March, 2008.
    Turns out he has been playing me all this time. He has a child from a previous relationship, which I was aware of and accepted. Problem is that I was made believe that his relationship with the child's mother has been over way before he decided to come into the US. My whole marriage to this man was "perfect" as far as I could see. He was the man that I wanted and made me happy, always very sweet and attentive. We made many plans for the future, respected my wishes to continue my education and pursue my career. Mutual agreement on no children for the time being.
    Well, since the receipt of his Residency in August, the man I thought I knew was no more. In the beginning for the year I find out that he has hidden the money that we were saving for "Our vacation". He started acting very strangely and of course I needed to know what was going on.
    I know have tons of e-mails, voice recordings, recorded computer activity of his talking about his real intentions. All this time he has been planning to use me, get his residency so that eventually he could become a citizend and bring his "ex-girlfriend", son and legalize his mother.
    I have contacted, sent all the evidence that I have to DHS, filed a report. NO RESPONSE!!!! I finally was able to get in touch with an officer with Public Affairs, and his response to me was that this case does not meet the standards to the US Attorney to act on. ARE YOU KIDDING ME????
    I contacted a lawyer that told me that he could help me get file an extensive report with DHS and build a case against him and get his Residency cancelled, him deported and possibly prosecuted for fraud. Problem is that I don't have the money at the moment to continue with the case. He is leaving the country tomorrow on "HIS" vacation and I am left without a dime, and the authorities can't help me???? IS THERE NO JUSTICE??? AND YES MAYBE THIS HAPPENS BECAUSE THERE ARE STILL SOME OF US THAT BELIEVE IN TRUE LOVE OR AT LEAST IN HAVING A COMPANION WITH OUR BEST INTRESTS IN MIND. HOW NAIVE RIGHT?
  • 03-07-2008, 11:51 PM
    GOOD Russian Girl
    Re: Marriage Fraud - I'm The Victim
    God Bless you guys & help you to go through all this mess.
    Personally, I think it would be fair not to link marriage & immigration process together. How?:wallbang:
  • 03-09-2008, 11:22 AM
    alek1980
    Re: Marriage Fraud - I'm The Victim
    It's very sad that people will live no stone unturned to become residents of the United states. It takes some one with extremely horrible morals to commit acts like these. I don't know if people understand the extent they're hurting other people emotionally by acting as though they're in love with someone just to be able to gain residence. Am not american but i must say be extremely careful when getting involved with anybody foreign but again not all foreign citizens are morally wasted just be cautious. Am yet to get an explanation as to why people choose to go to the extreme. One thing i can assure people who use american citzens that it's bound to come back and bit you trust me on that. No bad deed goes away unpunished.
  • 03-09-2008, 11:28 AM
    alek1980
    Re: Marriage Fraud - I'm The Victim
    It's very important for the US government to start protecting innocent citzens against scam artist. People are being hurt emotionally due to fraudsters pretending to love some one and soon after they've gained resdency they turn against them. It's very important that all US citizens are cautious when dealing with foreign nationals, am not saying all foreign nationals are scammers but they're plenty who are so desperate that they'll do any thing to gain residence in this country. And even though it means hurting someone emotionally they are not bothered. Oh and by the way am not a US citizen am just that type who believes in treating people with decency.
  • 04-02-2008, 02:43 PM
    bigdiva78
    Re: Marriage Fraud - I'm The Victim
    I sympathize with all of you.

    YKMendes...I met a Ghanaian guy in May of 2005 who was here on a student visa, trust me...I knew of the scams and am very self protective. He was talking commitment on our second or third date. I always questioned him about whether he had a wife in Ghana and if he had ulterior motives and he always denied. Three months into the relationship, I found out he had a wife in Ghana and it is a documented, legal marrige per the wife (yes, I actually called Ghana and spoke with her). To make a long story short...we continued to "fool around". He was cheating on me with a Ghanaian American woman (who recently had his baby by the way). She was going to marry him for a green card until she received the call from me. He then found another African American woman who agreed to marry him for a green card. So now there's four women in the picture: myself, the documented wife in Ghana, the Ghanaian American "baby momma" who is a joint sponsor and the documented wife in America. Now there are three women in the picture minus me...but I kindly reported his butt to ICE (Immigrations and Customes Enforcement) on the grounds of marriage fraud and bigamy. I reported him June '07 and he got his green card February '08, not sure of the investigation status, but surely bigamy should count for something.
  • 04-04-2008, 02:51 PM
    thisreallysux
    Re: Marriage Fraud - I'm The Victim
    I'm sorry that all this is happenning to you and I hope you people can find an honest partner in the future. Maybe this advice will help:

    I am an immigrant from Colombia, I dated a boy a little younger than me at the end of my high school year and most of college. My immigration situation was not very clear...I was an entrepreneur's dependant, and my visa would expire on my 21st birthday...I was 18 back then.

    I turned 19, i was right in the middle of college, in loooove and my parents were driving me crazy! So we eloped (: and we're still happily married to this day. We also decided that he was going to help me get my citizenship, because even though I was legal, and I could get a student visa, a student visa doesnt allow you to work, or it does but not full time, and the process through marriage was a lot faster, and! my visa would expire a cou. So a few days after we married, we submitted my papers. I am 21 now. Some of us actually do love our citizen partners, so, no hating on immigrants!!

    But what I know about my case should help you out. In order for me to get my conditions removed from my visa I have to prove (according to my lawyer) that I have been married to him and that we are a genuine marriage happy couple kinda thing. He needs to know eeeverything about me...I dont know if for your interview it was the same, but my first interview they asked him what kind of birth control i used...they asked really intimate things that only a hubbie would know. We also had to submit proof that we were living together...it was soo much that we just decided to save ALL our mail saved. They asked us for things like...evidence of joint ownership (we're young, broke students, we dont own anything, so we cant submit anything like that) all this stuff that needed to show that we were together legitimately.

    I'm thinking that with how strict immigration regulations are today...they're probably going to ask a LOT more from you people and from your misbehaved spouses. This is the opportunity for you to speak up and declare that you marriage was a fraud, that you were used and that you no longer want to claim citizenship of your spouse, citizenship will be denied and they will no longer have status = be illegal and eligible for deportation. then again, there is also a chance that...since things are so backed up in immigration, that they just stamp her visa, no questions asked, no interview, no nothing. But if she does get that appointment, usually the same month when her temp visa expires, show up and speak up!

    Now, I am by no means justifying what your spouses did. It's horrible to use someone in that way. But think about what your motives are for doing what you plan on doing....is it revenge? or is it a real concern for the law? Is the burden of knowing that you ended with somebody's life as they know it, something that you're willing to carry forever? (I think about this when I get in a fight with my husband, I think that whatever our problem is, we need to solve it because we can't get a divorce; if he left me, not only would it break my heart, he would do away with my life as I know it, I've been here since I was 12! I have my family here, my degree, my job my friends, my life! and he also thinks about that, that even if things dont work out between us, since we married so young and we are so broke, he couldnt deal with his conscience if he f**** me over like that...) so think about what you're gonna do...and i hope things get better!
  • 04-04-2008, 03:01 PM
    thisreallysux
    Re: Marriage Fraud - I'm The Victim
    PS: I am not a lwayer, but all the info above comes directly from my first immigration appointment and from my immigration attorney.
  • 04-25-2008, 01:38 PM
    TheSergeant
    Re: Marriage Fraud - I'm The Victim
    Me too. I met my Philippine wife by accident on the net. I wasn't even interested, but she kept e-mailing me after I complimented her on a nice profile. I called and we talked then she called twice a day from Hong Kong. I talked, but did not really want the expense and hassles, plus how could I be sure? She was 47 and I 58 at the time. Yet the twice daily calls began to touch me. She was so attentive, and always interested in my health and my life in general. After four months I went to meet her and her family. After another five months of her phone calls, and our video chats. I asked if she wanted to come here. I don't have the space here for all the details, but I had no doubt that she wanted what I wanted.

    Later I found that the cancer that I thought in remission had returned. I told her to find someone else, because I had no idea how long I had left. She scolded me and professed her love. Based on ten months of daily contact, I suspected that she was sincere.


    She arrived, and we married a month later. We had what I thought to be normal growing pains over the next few months. She met another filipina and things began falling apart fast. She stayed on the phone, or went to her girlfriend's house whenever she could. I was becoming invisible slowly. She began looking at live-in housekeepr jobs on the internet. When I asked she claimed that she was just curious about the pay. Obviously I became uneasy. Then a problem with her I-485 came up and she was denied residency. I got right on it filing an appeal since it was only based on one form that was incorrect. She became distant and cold. I continued doing all that was necessary, but a notice to appear for removal came. Now she started talking about abuse, too little money, general bad treatment. She refused to talk with me about that or anything else. I even heard her tell a friend that I was stupid.

    I explained that we had only made one error, so we'd go to the hearing with all the paper, and based on our lawyer's guidance, we could expect that she'd be granted residency at the hearing or at least not be deported, and we'd be able to straighten it all out.

    She became more hostile and began accusing me of things that never happened and repeating bad treatment and abuse. We were rarely in the same room at home now, and she was on the computer an or phone from morning till night. I found many of my financial records in her possession quite by accident. I removed them and all the older records from the house and locked the current records in my cabinet.

    I went out one afternoon, came home and she and ALL her possessions were gone. She left a letter accusing me of lying and abusing her.

    I looked at the history on the computer she used mostly, and it was primarily searches for live-in jobs in numerous states. In her e-mail I found that she had found a job, and was even trying to get a visa to go to England.

    I have a plan though. I'll let you know how this ends soon.
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