Juvenile Laws For An Out Of Control Teen

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Quoting IndyMom

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jasgal - you still here? Your story hit me because of some similarities in our circumstances.

The school will be on you to make sure the kid attends because they make no money for every day that a child is not in attendance. And they will pester you until he turns 18. The only out I can see is if he has managed to pass the proficiency exam. If he has, then you can dis-enroll him at 16. (I used to be a single mom in California. WRT the schools, BTDT.)

School's about to start again, and I'll be thinking of you until December.

I also wish I could be more helpful in getting the police to take you seriously. Have you tried complaining up the channel? Talking with the media?

I hope you're doing well, and it sounds as though December cannot come too soon.

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Indymom, thank you for your support. He has already been sent to another school. According to this school this is the last one that is willing to give him a chance. If he misses 2 meetings he will be dropped and reported to probation. I am counting the days till he is 18. He did get caught with drugs in April and went to court last month and all they did was give him a $100 fine. I really thought they would have put him on probation but the guy there said it was no big deal with what he was caught with.

Again a huge thank you for your support. And I know that as a parent I have tried everything possible to help that I could afford.

Well then I apologize for judging if it's a mental disorder that causes this. It is true though that it'd be your fault if it weren't a mental disorder, so you can't blame me for the assumption.

The legal system has been scroo'd forever, and this problem is just another example of how borked things are.

Kross lancer, I understand you are young, and to you the world is made up of black and white and absolutes. But, in our world, and especially in the law, there are precious few absolutes.

I've seen wonderful people raise two or more absolutely lovely and productive members of society, and have one bad one. Inevitably, those parents blames themselves, even though they did nothing wrong.

You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink.

Ya can in KY. Yep.

Well here is a update on my son, he has gone and gotten a 2nd tattoo after I got upset about the first one and told him until he was 18 and out of my house no more. I am so angry. There is nothign I can do. It's not like I can throw him out. He will just call the police and laugh in my face. He knows that I can not throw him out. I have taken everything away from him but his bed and dresser. I give him no money. God help me. This is turning out to be such a nightmare. :wallbang:

If you ignored the tattoo, he'd either only get it because he wanted to, or he wouldn't get it at all.
As it is, he has reasons to get them...it drives mom CRAZY!! Woo hoo!!
Trust me; next time he gets a tattoo, become very interested in it. Ask him how he came up with the design, ask him about the background and training of the person who did it, heck, tell him YOU are kind of thinking about getting one. Ask him what he thinks would look good on you. Be very, very serious. (and interested...you may actually learn some interesting things about your son!)

It's no fun if mom isn't horrified...

I can vouch for this technique - my mom turned all sorts of lovely shades of color when I came home one day with a 2 foot tall, deep burgandy mohawk (with black stripes no less) held in place with parafin wax - yet reserved her comments to pointing out little areas that were uneven and insisting on helping me "fix" one of the stripes that was a little faded. You've never been IN the Twilight Zone until you've sat on a chair in the family kitchen and had your super-conservative mother HELP to improve your mohawk!

*lolol* aard...you made me laugh out loud. Seriously. Thank you for that.

I truly think that if more parents were just a bit more open to their childrens' rebellion, that children would find SO much less to rebel against...