Assaulted By My Child's Father, Don't Want The State To Press Charges

To make a long night short me and the father of my child(never has been a boyfriend,didn't live with me)got into it Feb 2008.He got out of control and went crazy striking me several times with an extention cord and leaving bruises and cuts on my bare body.The ordeal lasted hours(not him hitting me but him stopping for a hour or so at a time and talking about his life and having these weird flash backs)He would get mad and start to hit me again.It was as crazy as it sounds when i got a chance to get the the bathroom i called 911.He was arrested and charged with Felonious assault felony 2,kidnapping felony 1,and domstic violence felony 3(this is his 3rd DV he is currently in on my charges and a 6month sentence just given this past Thursday for a case with a girlfriend 4months ago)I am not one of those women who wants to exuse what he did at all it happened to me and i was there so yes he should be punished BUT i do feel bad because we have a child and he has other children and i KNOW he really needs help and locking him up for years won't help only hurt him more.I feel like Kidnapping is a bit severe and i wish i could talk to someone to get that dropped plus the fact that i may have to speak against him in court is making me uneasy because I feel like this whole thing is a bit drastic sounding.My question is IS THERE ANYTHING I CAN DO TO SUGGEST LESS CHARGES OR TELL THEM HOW I FEEL?again this is not for him it is for me because i cant sleep because i am ready for all this to be over and while he needs to pay for what he's done i don't feel like a bunch of years in jail will help any of us.

Are you serious?

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i don't feel like a bunch of years in jail will help any of us.

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But it will help the rest of us sleep at night knowing that after the 3rd strike he is OUT.

Professionally speaking, GET YOURSELF SOME HELP.

It is also not up to you, but to the state to press charges. There is nothing you can do at this point. If he is able to get off and you don't want him to go back to jail, don't call 911 for help, let him kill you next time. Maybe he'll stick around long enough for your child to see his behavior, think it's normal and then beat the crap out of others when they get older.

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Quoting gigirle

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Are you serious?


But it will help the rest of us sleep at night knowing that after the 3rd strike he is OUT.

Professionally speaking, GET YOURSELF SOME HELP.

It is also not up to you, but to the state to press charges. There is nothing you can do at this point. If he is able to get off and you don't want him to go back to jail, don't call 911 for help, let him kill you next time. Maybe he'll stick around long enough for your child to see his behavior, think it's normal and then beat the crap out of others when they get older.

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There is a Legal forum troll that goes by sadandlonley...This is just the kind of silliness she would post about...:rolleyes:

Just to throw in a tidbit...

Studies by the National Institute of Health suggest that some 68% (other sources go as high as 75%) of male children injured or killed in domestic violence cases met their fate while trying to protect their mothers. Just because he hasn't included attacks against any of his childen YET doesn't mean that THEIR lives aren't in danger too. And the older they get, the higher the chances that any one of them would attempt to intervene. A bunch of years in jail helps more than just YOU.

Gee! Exactly how much do you love your child??? That's one fine specimen of a father-figure for your kid to grow up under the influence of.......

.......if you are a troll then you got the computer version of Munchausens!!! Posting as a means to garner attention/sympathy.

Take the previous advice and seek professional help immediately! You got some issues IMHO.

It's expensive raising a child as a single mother while the child's father is in jail.
Statistically speaking, from 12-15 years ago, a woman is abused 6 times before she finally leaves her spouse or is killed. You can cut that cycle short if you so choose.

...and you can't unring that bell...