Child Custody, Alabama National Guardsman Vs. Illinois

here's the deal. i'm going to end up in court in illinois over chlid support and visitation or custody, but i reside in alabama. What are my options or rights. the story goes like this. my chlid's mother and i met in vegas when i was in the military, i was tdy, she was on vacation. we had a relationship for a while got pregnant and boom had a daughter. while she was pregnant she started seeing her previous boyfriend (which she has a child with to, an older brother to my chlid). so with the situation being like that i had no choice but not to have a relationship with her. i was stationed in utah and she lived in illinois. i signed the birth certificate and claim my daughter, payed child support and wanted to see my child, but long distance kept me from seeing her as much as i would want to. Well a year went by and she wasn't with the other father anymore and wanted me back, so we got back together for the sake of our daughter. then i was transferred overseas to korea where the relationship stayed in tact. when my tour was up i was stationed in south carolina and for the first few months it worked. I leased and apartment for us to live in- which i could barely afford by myself while sending chlild support. later that year she had found another boyfriend and moved in with him without letting me know anything had gone sour in our relationship. so i'm pretty much paying for her half of the rent and she's living with another dude that i dont even know she's with- with my daughter. completely oblivious that she's in another relationship. so i had no choice but to end that one- well she ended but didn't tell me. I seperated from the air force (active duty) moved back to alabama- joined the national guard in alabama. while i moved i got behind on support because i wasn't employed. now i have a good job working civil service for the state of alabama. here's what i need help with- i have no problem paying child support at all whatever it is ill pay it. what i do have a problem with is that i don't get my child for much time at all. i have never had her for christmas, i get her maybe for a week or two in the summer and that's pretty much it. she meets me half way for visitation now, but i don't want that. i don't want anything to do with her. what do i need to do or what advice can you give me so i can see my daughter more or for that matter have custody. she lives with her boyfriend at her mom's house now, because of some legal issues and can't afford rent on a place, but i can. i could support our child's well being more than she can. not saying she's a bad mom but i have more to offer financially. what should i do? nothing is court ordered- child support or visitation. it's pretty much i get her when it's convenient for her. HELP!!!!!!!!!!

The answer is pretty simple.....
Goto court.
If you're close enough, where travel isn't really an issue, then there shouldn't be a problem with a night during the week, and every other weekend, rotating holidays would be advisable as well.
However, be prepared to start paying child support through the state program.(some states require you use them as a means to send mummy the money)
Now, you say your behind on child support, of which technically, there isn't any.
1 other thing you said, that bothers me....
You don't want mom to meet you 1/2 way, because you don't want to have anything to do with her. Wrong my friend.....
It takes Mom AND Dad to raise a child. They have to communicate with each other. Whether it be for play dates, schooling, Parent teachers meetings etc.....
You really can't expect to raise a well rounded child, without mom and dad at least communicating to some extent. And, no, it's not easy. And, as far as you not wanting her to meet you 1/2 way....
Well, if she did, that's more QUALITY time you can spend with your girl. ;)