Should I Have To Pay?

I live in Texas, and I have been divorced for almost nine years. My ex-husband moved to Kentucky shortly after we were divorced with his new wife( the woman he cheated with). We have 2 children together, and since we have been divorced, he does nothing positive for my children. Unknowingly, when we were divorced, I agreed to pay for half of the travel expenses by signing my uncontested divorce papers. I have beeen trying to have a modification done to have him pay for the travel expenses due to the fact that he moved out of state, I am unemployed, and he is behind in medical and child support. I cannot afford to pay for 2 plane tickets for my 2 children 2x a year. Any advice?:wallbang: :wallbang:

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Quoting tiredmomma

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I live in Texas, and I have been divorced for almost nine years. My ex-husband moved to Kentucky shortly after we were divorced with his new wife( the woman he cheated with). We have 2 children together, and since we have been divorced, he does nothing positive for my children. Unknowingly, when we were divorced, I agreed to pay for half of the travel expenses by signing my uncontested divorce papers. I have beeen trying to have a modification done to have him pay for the travel expenses due to the fact that he moved out of state, I am unemployed, and he is behind in medical and child support. I cannot afford to pay for 2 plane tickets for my 2 children 2x a year. Any advice?:wallbang: :wallbang:

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You agreed to pay half with the knowledge that he was moving out of state, correct?

If so, it doesn't sound like there's been any change in circumstance that would require a modification of that portion of the order.

However, there is something you can do that will help you in a different way. Because he is in arrears you can file to enforce the order and payment of the arrears. This will help with the expenses you are ordered to pay for.

When were divorced, he was supposed to stay in Texas while he was in the military. When I said that I agreed to pay half- we have a standard divorce decree, it states in there that one pay one way the other pays the other. After talking to people over the years, I found out that a number of people in the military have the papers drawn up so that the non-custodial parent pay travel costs. I stayed in Texas because I wanted my kids to have a relationship with their father.I am from NY- after we were divorced for 6 months, his wife wanted to move back to Kentucky, so they left. Through the years he has failed to pay child support, medical support, lawyers fees that he agree in court to pay, he does not have a relationship with my children. He calls them maybe once a month, if that. I should not have to pay for him to see his children when it was his choice to move, and he does not help support them emotionally,mentally or financially.

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... he does not have a relationship with my children. He calls them maybe once a month, if that.

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If he's not exercising his right to have a relationship and his visitation, what is the problem of the travel costs?

Has he only recently decided to exercise his visitation rights?

Since it's a part of the court order, if he does want visitation you'll have to pay for half of the costs until you can get the order modified. If you can prove that he has not exercised his rights for a long time, that might constitute a change of circumstance, get a consult with a local attorney to make sure though.