Losing a Job Due To a Domestic Violence Charge

I have a question. I live in CO and my ex and I recently divorced. He has rarely been giving me any child support. I really don't need it or even want it. It’s been great not having to deal with him. Going through the whole process with the courts is draining. But is going to bite in the tail a few years from now if I just allow this to stay on the back burner?
My main question is, he has a restraining order against him and a lot like some of the other threads, I am tempted to tell his employer, which would make him loose his job. (maybe)

I do know from some research, that many employers would not fire an employee just for having a restraining order or even a DV charge. I believe you must serve jail time, but that depends on the state. Due to the fact that the courts hand out restraining orders like candy.

So is your goal to get him to lose his job or to make trouble for him without actually getting him fired? It's unclear from your post. :rolleyes:

My question is...Is it worth trying to get him to loose his job, due to the fact that I know he is not being forth right about the situation. Or should I just let it go and let him hang himself.

I have a small child, so I am a bit afraid of pushing back on him. Not sure what would happen if I did. I just don't want anyone else to get hurt.

Sorry, but I don't answer revenge questions.

I don't think you will get an answer here. Your question isn't even a legal question.

I'm with you guys on that one.

You're talking about a person with a restraining order on them for domestic violence. Digest the fact that some 70% of domestic violence related homicides occur AFTER the parties are separated, and let this go. If you and your child are already out and in a safe place, then work to KEEP it that way. Poking a tiger with a stick is NOT a good idea.

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You're talking about a person with a restraining order on them for domestic violence. Digest the fact that some 70% of domestic violence related homicides occur AFTER the parties are separated, and let this go. If you and your child are already out and in a safe place, then work to KEEP it that way. Poking a tiger with a stick is NOT a good idea.

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Thank you, My issue is that my family wants me to pursue it. But I really want to let it go. By the way it is a legal question. Its not about revenge at all!! I don't think in those terms. Its about doing the right thing only if I know I have the law on my side.

Tell your family to BUTT OUT.

Seeking revenge teaches your child what!? Let it go

There is no law that says it's okay to try to get someone to lose their job because they have a restraining order. In what way is that "doing the right thing"?

The "right thing" would be for you to mind your own business.

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It’s been great not having to deal with him.

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If you want this to continue for at least the immediate future, just let it go. What purpose (other than a bit of getting some of your own back) would it serve?

I can't tell from your post if child support is ordered, but...he loses his job...he can't pay any support.

You are capable of making your own decisions without your family dictating your actions. Stand on your own two feet (you now have all the freedom in the world to do so) and just let it go.

Good luck.