Child's Wishes in Ohio

Can anyone help me understand why a child who tells the GAL and the judge that 1) he is afraid that he is going to get hurt by the ex, 2)that he lies to remain safe and 3)that he NEVER wants to see the ex again is being forced to visit my ex who has no biological connections to my child? I believe that the ex is suffering from borderline personality disorder and I personally have experienced the very manipulative/controlling and emotionally abusive behaviors. The child is 9 and is well above average intelligence, yet I am being told that he is not old enough to determine these things. He does NOT feel safe :wallbang:

Q: Can anyone help me understand why a child who tells the GAL and the judge that 1) he is afraid that he is going to get hurt by the ex, 2)that he lies to remain safe and 3)that he NEVER wants to see the ex again is being forced to visit my ex who has no biological connections to my child?

A: The answer is because the court decided this. But what do you mean the ex has no biological connections to the child?

And, PLEASE don't say that the ex adopted the child...

<<<But what do you mean the ex has no biological connections to the child?>>>

my son is a product of an anonymous donor........the ex and I were never married

Share the part you're not telling us - how did he establish parental rights to the child?

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<<<But what do you mean the ex has no biological connections to the child?>>>

my son is a product of an anonymous donor........the ex and I were never married

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Are you playing games?

I think I know, but I will wait to see if the OP confirms my suspicions.;)

What are you guys.......all atty's :D

I just do not understand why if a child tells everyone that he is afraid he will be hurt, that he feels that he has to lie to stay safe, etc.....that he is still forced to go against his wishes? SOmeone suggested that emotional abuse...or the potential for abuse/fear of abuse is not good enough? The actual "physical abuse" must be documented before anyone cares?

Does the nature of the relationship between the ex & I matter at that point?? If so...we were in a same sex relationship and I am the bio mom.......not trying to play games...just did not think that was important to what I was asking:confused:

That's exactly what I thought.

Have you heard the term "loco parentis"? That means that your ex partner has acted as a parent to this child and has an established relationship.

For your purposes, nothing is really different than any other custody/visitation proceeding. You need to have PROOF that she has harmed or is a danger to the child, not the word of a 9 year old child who is in the middle of this.

I'm not saying you are doing this, but it is VERY easy to influence a child of this age, no matter the intelligence level, to your wishes.

Get proof (without pumping the kiddo for information). Go from there.

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I just do not understand why if a child tells everyone that he is afraid he will be hurt, that he feels that he has to lie to stay safe, etc.....that he is still forced to go against his wishes?

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You will need to refer to the judge's ruling, which we haven't seen.

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Does the nature of the relationship between the ex & I matter at that point?

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Only if you want us to be able to answer your questions.

Are you trying to tell us that your ex-partner adopted the child?