Arguing that the father will benefit from the name change does not support the case that the name change is in the best interests of the child.Quote:
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Fathers Right To Give His Son His Last Name, in Florida
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10-25-2007, 08:06 AMaaronRe: Fathers Right To Give His Son His Last Name, in Florida
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10-25-2007, 08:12 AMmoburkesRe: Fathers Right To Give His Son His Last Name, in Florida
What are you talking about - tradition. Tradition says that people get married before they have children and that all of the children, whether boys or girls, have the last name of the father.
In any case, I provided accurate information in my earlier post.
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10-25-2007, 08:14 AMbecca80Re: Fathers Right To Give His Son His Last Name, in FloridaPersonaly, I think it will. Mainly for the fact that one day his mother may become married and have other children whom may carry on their fathers last name. Then he will wonder why he didn't carry his fathers and they do. Plus, it is tradition for son's to carry on their fathers name. I feel it was done out of spite and how do you explain that to your child one day? Also, my b/f does everything by the book when it comes to his resonsibilities to his son. He atleast deserves this right as his father!! Am I wrong?Quote:
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10-25-2007, 08:21 AMmoburkesRe: Fathers Right To Give His Son His Last Name, in FloridaOne of the rights of the father is not to have your child named after you. It just isn't written into the law books that way.Quote:
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Also, the mom may have another child of of wedlock.
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10-25-2007, 08:31 AMbecca80Re: Fathers Right To Give His Son His Last Name, in Florida
To those of you who disagree with me!! Yes, my b/f had his son out of wedlock, and yes it is tradition for parents to be married and name the kids after their father, but sometimes marriages/relationships don't work out and children are one of the outcomes of the failed marriage/relationship. But when a father has stepped up to the plate and has gone over and above his responsibilities, he atleast deserves this benefit.
Why is it fair that a mother, just because she birthed the child, should reap all the benefits?? How many children out there are named after the most deadbeat of men? I feel that a father who puts every ouce of his time and effort into being the best father he can, should atleast have this benefit. But the mother not only get's to be the residential parent, 75% of the custody and time with the child, several hundred dollars a month in child support and every other thing the state will give her (ie. food stamps, free medical, EBT, and much more), because she would rather not work and just collect off the father and welfare, and then the father gets nothing but every other weekend visits, a few holidays, pays out the ying yang for his ex to sit on hers, no free food, diapers, etc., and he doesn't even get the benefit of his son carrying on his name!! The world is a sad and greedy place. -
10-25-2007, 08:37 AMaaronRe: Fathers Right To Give His Son His Last Name, in Florida
I've already quoted the governing statute, "If the mother is not married at the time of birth, the parent who will have custody of the child shall select the child's given name and surname." Note that's not a gender-specific law, but relates to custody. If you do not like that law, lobby the state legislature to change it.
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10-25-2007, 08:46 AMbecca80Re: Fathers Right To Give His Son His Last Name, in Florida
I only came on here to ask opinions and maybe find someone who has been in this situation before. Just because that is what is stated as a law, doesn't mean that a judge won't feel different.
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10-25-2007, 11:06 AMjojo4Re: Fathers Right To Give His Son His Last Name, in Florida
Well, realistically, you state that your bf wants his son to carry on his name. Your argument is that one of the mother's relatives can have a child to carry on her family name. That argument works both ways. Your bf can have other children to carry on his name.
You further go on to state in the rant all of the injustices directed toward the father...except by your own admission, your bf spends 40% of the time with his son (as opposed to 25%).
If your bf feels this strongly about it, then by all means, let him file in court for a name change. However, you have still not stated one reason why it is in the CHILD'S best interest to change his name. Dad is an adult. He can deal.
As for tradition...I just added my husband's name to my maiden name. My SON has both mine and my husband's name. I figure that I carried him for 9 months and gave birth to him. He is just as much my son and he is my husband's. Further, I have on sister and she will have no more chlildren (neither will I). Our son is the only boy. Why do you think that the mother shouldn't have as much right to have her son have HER family name?
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10-25-2007, 11:14 AMaaronRe: Fathers Right To Give His Son His Last Name, in FloridaIf you don't care what the law is, and simply press the issue until you get opinions that have nothing to do with the law, all the more power to you. But opinions that fly in the face of the law are, for the most part, worthless.Quote:
Quoting becca80